[Hoyam]

Have feelings for a man and he told me that he sees me only as a friend. We're adults but been thinking about it a lot and it's disappointing to admit that your feelings are worthless. It's also affecting my self-esteem, surfacing a lot of insecurities.
Am 29 and I know it will pass but it's been such a long time since I had any feelings for someone.

[Crazy Hitch]

That's not a nice situation to be in. Remember as disappointing as it is, attraction is one of those undefined chemistry things where we either 'click' with someone romantically or we don't. It's not because you've done / not done anything, just he doesn't get the chemistry there.

[Hoyam]

Originally Posted by Crazy Hitch

That's not a nice situation to be in. Remember as disappointing as it is, attraction is one of those undefined chemistry things where we either 'click' with someone romantically or we don't. It's not because you've done / not done anything, just he doesn't get the chemistry there.

Even though I know you are right. I can't help but believe it's because am not that pretty. If I was better looking he (or any other guy I had previous crushes on) would definitely have feelings for me.
We live in a society where looks is the most important asset a woman could have. Brains/humor/ethics etc comes next. We can't control how we look and to be valued based on that is a shame.