[Eleny]

I always need to be the centre of attention and I’ve only just become aware of it, because a person I know recently said to me “why do you always feel the need to make it all about you?” after I’d been singing and dancing in front of my friends. I was so upset because I’d never realised. I definitely have an outgoing personality but since that statement now I really do notice my need to be the centre of attention. I want conversations to be about me and I want attention to be on me. I notice how when someone tells me their problem I say “oh me too, one time...” and highjack the conversation. I feel so ashamed now. I wish I didn’t feel the need to be constantly validated but I do and it seems to be getting worse. My dad needs constant attention and is very child like so I know where I get it from. I’m not sure what advice can even be given on this I just feel really bad about it.

[MickeyCheeky]

First of all, know that the fact that you're acknlowedging that is already a great thing. I think you may feel insecure or may have low self-esteem, so perhaps you feel a need to compensate for that. Could that be the cause? If you think so, perhaps you could try some books or guides about rebuilding your self-esteem. Even a therapist can be helpful.

[Eleny]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

First of all, know that the fact that you're acknlowedging that is already a great thing. I think you may feel insecure or may have low self-esteem, so perhaps you feel a need to compensate for that. Could that be the cause? If you think so, perhaps you could try some books or guides about rebuilding your self-esteem. Even a therapist can be helpful.

Thank you for your kind reply. I have very low self esteem but nothing seems to help I might try therapy but I’m skeptical if that will even help?

The fact that you acknowledge it is a great start. Do you have a therapist? Have you ever read about Histrionic Personality Disorder?

Here is the PC article about it: https://psychcentral.com/disorders/h...lity-disorder/

Being uncomfortable with not being the center of attention is one of the main symptoms. I am not saying you have it necessarily, but it is possible to have traits without the diagnosis.

Sigh, I am going to do exactly what you have referred to and say, "Me too."

Acknowledging it is definitely a start as others have said. In my case I need to work on listening skills and to not feel the need to fill in silent moments (which make me uncomfortable).

I am unsure your case but in mine I am thinking my Bipolar is involved here. Thinking grandiosly for some is part and parcel with it.

Do you have someone you spend a lot of time with that you can discuss this with? My boyfriend and I have a small signal for which he reminds me I am doing it again. Perhaps you can come up with a similar arrangement.

[Loose Screw x 2]

Before you jump to conclusions let's take a step back and look at a few things, shall we?
Being silly or doing anything that attracts attention from others doesn't make you someone who craves attention. It could just be that you are a happy and lively person.
Because some person made a remark you have decided to examine yourself to see if they are right and now it seems so but, because of your self esteem issue you could be over analyzing and nit picking at something that isn't even there.
There is nothing wrong with wanting and seeking attention as long as you aren't obsessed with it or you always have to steal the spotlight from someone else.
Being able to relate to what others say is a good thing and dominating the conversation could be because you are just excited or maybe even hyper.
This is not to say that you don't have some kind of condition that could be a part of this but, you may just be over thinking it too. Maybe the person who made the remark is jealous of you. Ever think about that?

Very wise thinking on this.

[*Laurie*]

Take a class in drama. You might very well be a natural actress.