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Old Jan 29, 2018, 09:05 AM
justafriend306
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No need to relate the specifics. Some might think them trivial. But the point is that it wasn't to me. I was left feeling hurt and taken advantage of. I spoke up about my thoughts and feelings and it resulted in a day of coldness and awkwardness. There was still a little akwardness this morning but my world should return to a happy normal.

But the thing is that it wasn't me who had done anthing wrong. Yet I have ended up feeling regret and guilt for speaking up. I feel regret and guilt for the tension that followed. It was a catch-22. Not say anything and allow the incident to fester or say something and have a fight. Sigh, there just was no winning with this situation.

Thoughts? What do you tend to do; speak up or ignore?

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Old Jan 29, 2018, 09:42 AM
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You might want to read up on co-dependent relationships. A common strategy is to keep a partner quiet by creating a painful disruption if they dare to speak.
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Old Jan 29, 2018, 10:34 AM
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I think unless your life depends on it or the person is really dangerous, otherwise it is always better to speak up above all in relationships.
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Old Jan 29, 2018, 04:40 PM
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It’s better to speak up.
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