[rdgrad15]

I've noticed a pattern that has been the case with me all my life. People seem to only tolerate me or want to talk to me for short periods of time or if they are in a good mood. Like, whether it is coworkers, or even other friends or acquaintances, past and present, I've noticed that if they are in a bad mood, they will be very snappy with me or just flat out ignore me. Yet they will still talk to other friends or other people they know as if nothing is wrong. The person may vent to others, but won't actually be snappy or rude with them or flat out ignore them. Also in a similar way, even if they are in a good mood, they will go through periods where they just don't want to talk to me. I just get flat out ignored or snapped at. Yet they seem so happy with everyone else. I don't get why this is the case.

Anyone have this problem? What could be the case here? This just confuses me and I've always wanted to find a way to stop this since I hate being the one that gets ignored or snapped at when someone is in a bad mood or just doesn't want to talk, yet they will still treat everyone else around them nicely. It makes me think that it means they don't care much about me or feel very close to me. I understand that they may not feel as close to me but I still don't get why I get treated one way but everyone else doesn't. They still get treated way better. Even if it is someone they are not friends with as well. Do you think saying something is a good idea? Do you think they purposefully trying to be rude to get rid of me since they do it just to me but no one else? Just wondered.

[pegasus]

Sounds like they are taking advantage of your good nature. Yes, you need to say something otherwise you will continue to be treated like a doormat.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by pegasus

Sounds like they are taking advantage of your good nature. Yes, you need to say something otherwise you will continue to be treated like a doormat.

Yeah it sounds like it. I should say something.

[hvert]

I agree, saying something is the way to go. I think people will scapegoat others if they think they can get away with it and that it is less likely to happen if you refuse to put up with it.

[rdgrad15]

Originally Posted by hvert

I agree, saying something is the way to go. I think people will scapegoat others if they think they can get away with it and that it is less likely to happen if you refuse to put up with it.

I agree. With my cowkrkers, it will be a bit tricky since they are all older than me but I’m sure I can figure a way around it and still be respectful.