[nat.cassidy]

My partner and I have been dealing with a lot of issues in our relationship lately. He is super stressed out about his exams and assignments and the lack of time he gets for himself. I am working full time and studying full time. Lately it feels like he becoming less open and less patient with me whenever there is a dispute. We are currently in a long distance relationship (almost 2 years) and planning for me to move to his city in exactly 6 months to close the distance. Now I'm a little hesitant now because I feel like my emotions are being tossed around. When we are on the same page, we are doing really well together. But lately it seems whenever we hit a bump, he doesn't care as much unless it's a huge deal. It seems like his affection is going back and forth and I'm so emotionally confused. It's almost like one day, I mean everything to him, which he expressed with both words and actions. And then the next day, it's like I don't really matter as much. Last night we decided to take a 2 week break away from each other to breathe and reflect what we want to do and if we should continue moving forward. Thoughts?

[TishaBuv]

More important than a random outsider’s thoughts, what are your thoughts?

[nat.cassidy]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

More important than a random outsider’s thoughts, what are your thoughts?

I'm just confused and frustrated. Of course more than anything, I love him and would love to be with him. But I'm also feeling like I'm doing the chasing recently and he's not meeting me half way. When we talk about the problems, we're on the same page. But the minute he doesn't want to deal with it, he turns it back on me. I'm so hurt

[TishaBuv]

It sounds like you are moving to his city to be closer, but not moving in with him. Why only moving closer after two years?

[nat.cassidy]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

It sounds like you are moving to his city to be closer, but not moving in with him. Why only moving closer after two years?

We are looking for a place to live together, I have brought up the idea of me maybe living with a roommate and for him to continue sharing his space with 2 friends as he is right now, but he says that he would like to live together.

I was still finishing up school last year and didn't have the financial means saved up to just pick up and move (I'm currently living with parents) and we made a plan for me to move back in May so I could start working and saving enough to leave this summer.

Maybe he is having second thoughts about the relationship?

[TishaBuv]

I think the break and reflection and then open, honest discussion about your wants and needs is a good idea.

Getting very stressed and taking your SO for granted is something that creates problems in relationships. It’s something that brought me to this site coincidentally. This could just be a case of stress management and you can work it out.

[nat.cassidy]

Originally Posted by ForWhatItsWorth2U

Maybe he is having second thoughts about the relationship?

I just don't want him to just call it quits and then come back like he made a mistake. We have had an argument last month where he says he feels it's not worth it anymore and that the arguments were stressing him out. Literally the next day, he tells me the complete opposite and wanted to work things out. It's like I'm with 2 different people

[nat.cassidy]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

I think the break and reflection and then open, honest discussion about your wants and needs is a good idea.

Getting very stressed and taking your SO for granted is something that creates problems in relationships. It’s something that brought me to this site coincidentally. This could just be a case of stress management and you can work it out.

Have you ever taking a break away from someone before? And if yes, what are your tips are handling everything?

[TishaBuv]

Originally Posted by nat.cassidy

Have you ever taking a break away from someone before? And if yes, what are your tips are handling everything?

Be secure with yourself, and add to your life people who mostly give you pleasure.

What are the durations and how often are you seeing one another.

Is it possible to increase these? I think it is important to spend time with and view one another long and often enough to see their day-to-day routines and habits. You need to not only observe how one another lives but participate in it frequently enough that doing so is part of a regular routine.

[nat.cassidy]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

What are the durations and how often are you seeing one another.

Is it possible to increase these? I think it is important to spend time with and view one another long and often enough to see their day-to-day routines and habits. You need to not only observe how one another lives but participate in it frequently enough that doing so is part of a regular routine.

We don't get to physically see each other as we live across the country from another. But we plan out visits on who flies out and usually this is during when I have days off at work or he has a break from school. It's hard to fly out often as plane tickets are very expensive so we usually plan months ahead to fly out for holidays, birthdays and breaks between his school exams.