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I call myself a walking paradox. I am definitely an introvert, but I'm not shy by any means. In fact, if I disclose that I am indeed an introvert, people are surprised.
While I can go into a crowd and interact, it takes A LOT out of me, and after a couple hours, I'm ready to go home. As an introvert, however, I long for deep, meaningful connections and have never been able to find them. Here's a typical example of how things go... I spend time with someone (I'm talking about friendship with other females) and we have a great time. I will commit to trying to keep the communication going and things just... fizzle. For instance, I got up the nerve to go on a girls trip with coworkers and we had a lot of fun. Since getting back it's like nothing ever happened. I told the group I would like to do another trip this summer, sent out the info, no response. I've tried to see if some of them may want to go to happy hour or something and nothing. It's not like I really enjoy happy hours / meetups either, but I know I won't connect with anyone watching Netflix and playing with the dog. I really don't like going out alone, and it would be nice just to have someone to hang out with from time to time (I call this my Sex and the City crew), but it never happens. I'm putting forth effort but it doesn't go anywhere, so I think there's something wrong with me. I'm a fun girl! What gives? |
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I think it's harder to make friends as an adult. People have families, significant others, children, jobs. I'm really sorry you have been initiating with your coworkers and they have not seemed to be interested. That is definitely frustrating, disappointing, and a crummy feeling.
![]() I have been in the same boat before, and here are things I do: take it one step at a time (sometimes there are lulls and other times there's a flood of things / people happening), do things on your own (like go to meet ups, a club you're interested in, or take a class in something you've always wanted to learn...branch out from your coworkers). You said you're an introvert, but I don't see these things as too hard to do as an introvert. I am an introvert, and sometimes with new groups and clubs, I hang back, due to my own energy level. No one minds. Other times I'm right in there. It just depends on the crowd. It sounds like from your post you might be doing some of these things. I have 2 words of advice. 1.) Don't try so hard, like don't focus on it so much, but still go out, and 2.) Maybe examine yourself and see if there's something you might in fact, unintentionally be doing that may not be helping you during your social interactions. There is a book called "Stop Being Lonely." I forget who it's by. A woman. Perhaps it might help. Anyway, good luck. I hope my post helped at least a little. |
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Aweeee Zen, I am so sorry you have been thinking something is wrong with you because others have difficulty making plans or following through with them. You will find a time when everyone wants to join in. But i think these days so many people are into their own lives they rarely think about making plans with people they work with. Maybe you can meet some new people, maybe neighbors, maybe a club or a group of some type! And Im so glad you have a dog because they are some of the best PEOPLE I know! LOL ![]()
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