[Unicornicopia]

I'm in a bit of a complicated LDR and I'm just not knowing what to do...
I live in Colorado and my S.O. lives in Texas. We met online through a mutual friend back in 2014 on Facebook. We connected instantly and have been talking ever since. We haven't met in person yet but feel that we are soulmates and plan to get married. He currently is on probation (for a situation I'm not gonna say) for about 2 more years and then he's looking forward to moving here closer to me.

I currently am having a very difficult time getting my own life on track. I've been looking for a job with no success. I need to get out and get a place of my own. I can't drive (I only have a learner's permit) and my home situation is a mess. Living with my dad and stepmom is fine but the fact that her mom (with advanced Alzheimer's and in home hospice care) lives with us as well is very stressful for everyone. Our situation is basically tearing each other apart, and I don't know how to deal with it all when I need to get a life of my own so that when my S.O. moves here we'll both be prepared for a life together without family issues holding us back.

[MickeyCheeky]

Welcome

[SorryShaped]

You said it, "need to get a life of your own." Do that first. I'm getting one slowly. It's kind of cool to be alone, though lonely.

[Unicornicopia]

Yes, I do need to get a life of my own, but it's hard when I'm having 0 luck with getting a job that works with my current situation so that I can move out and have my own life.

[12AM]

Have you tried to get help in finding a job through the vocational rehab place? They’ll help you finding a job that suits your situation though it’s not a full time job but at least it’s a good start.

[graystreet]

This may be an unpopular opinion but...

I'd suggest meeting in person before anything else. I had a long distance SO whom I thought was my soulmate for years. The only think I'll say about it is that it is pretty important to meet in person before making plans such as moving to other states, marriage, etc. I promise you that no amount of talking online, for however many years, can tell you enough about a person to give you the necessary foundation to make these decisions.

[Unicornicopia]

I'll have to check that out. I've never heard about any such thing, but I'll give it a try. Thanks!

[Unicornicopia]

I don't think that would be unpopular opinion. I do agree that we should meet in person before anything goes as far as marriage. As for him moving, I told him when he first said about moving here that I shouldn't be the only reason for him to move here. He told me that he's wanted to move here to Colorado since before knowing me. Me happening to be here was merely a coincidence. Lol!

Yes, meet in person and live together first is my recommendation. I was long distance with my ex then we moved in together and he was nothing like he had been long distance.... he was a totally different person. So yes, definitely meet first. Sorry about your family situation. That's really difficult.