[eclairparty98]

Hellooo

I've recently started dating and met this really wonderful guy I can naturally feel comfortable around and so things are going well. We've already met and I truly had a genuinely great time and we text every day.

But he works extremely late and comes home around 9 pm and so daytimes don't always work. Unfortunately, I'm not able to tell my parents I'm dating so it's all really secretive. We're both really casual and so aren't fussy when it comes to dating which is why we've came up with an idea to go on a late night date.

This is the problem - I'd have to sneak out at night. We're gonna get a drive through, I think or go for a drive which I'm okay with assuming he doesn't have any plans to harm me in anyway.

The point is, from my perspective, is that we've already met and nothing scary happened. Am I being paranoid? Or should I go for it? My instinct/gut feeling is infamous for mixed signals.

*note, this is not the same guy I was extremely paranoid to meet a few weeks ago for anyone who might remember that post lol.
Thanks for reading xoxo

[eclairparty98]

Originally Posted by eclairparty98

The point is, from my perspective, is that we've already met and nothing scary happened. Am I being paranoid? Or should I go for it? My instinct/gut feeling is infamous for mixed signals.

The point being that if he had plans to hurt me, why wait for the second date? He would've surely done it by now, right? Or assuming he's a serial killer, he'd have moved onto someone willing to meet asap rather than waiting around for me

How did you meet this person and why can't you tell your parents you are dating?

Why not wait until a weekend when you can meet for lunch at a public place during the day? I would be reluctant to jump in a car with someone alone at night whom I had just met, regardless.

[Trippin2.0]

I wouldn’t go anywhere with a stranger at night no, and the fact that you have to do it in secret?

What if something does go wrong?

Who would know to look for you and where to possibly find you?

Also, since you’re entertaining the serial killer angle anyway, shyt doesn’t always go down immediately, sometimes they like to lull their prey before they pounce.

I don’t see the urgency to meet so late, it can certainly wait till daylight if it’s worth waiting for.

[eclairparty98]

Originally Posted by golden_eve

How did you meet this person and why can't you tell your parents you are dating?

Why not wait until a weekend when you can meet for lunch at a public place during the day? I would be reluctant to jump in a car with someone alone at night whom I had just met, regardless.

Hi golden_eve, I met him on a dating app a few weeks ago and we've been talking every day. We've already had a extra long date and there are no faults i can find in this man so I don't think of him as a stranger.

But I can't tell my parents because they're really protective and I'm worried regarding their reaction. More curfews, shorter time limits etc until I move out. I'm 19 so it's the rules

He occassionally works daytimes on the weekend so it'll still be dark by the time he finishes as it's winter

[MickeyCheeky]

Frankly I would avoid it.. I'm not sure one date is enough to start trusting him completely. He may not be a complete stranger but you don't truly know him either.

[eclairparty98]

Originally Posted by Trippin2.0

I wouldn’t go anywhere with a stranger at night no, and the fact that you have to do it in secret?

What if something does go wrong?

Who would know to look for you and where to possibly find you?

Also, since you’re entertaining the serial killer angle anyway, shyt doesn’t always go down immediately, sometimes they like to lull their prey before they pounce.

I don’t see the urgency to meet so late, it can certainly wait till daylight if it’s worth waiting for.

Hi there, I've shared some details with a few people like where we're going and I've been talking about him a lot so it's not totally secretive. I'm taking my dog with me, he'll appreciate the drive and my date should be okay with this lol. If my date wants to try anything dangerous, the dog will probably put him off.

I know exactly what you mean regarding serial killers but I'm hoping that's just my irrational paranoia talking and not common sense lol

Even if I don't do this, who's to say he wont try anything crazy when we end up alone at one of our homes.. Which is why I'm trying to see the upsides to this idea

[WhatsNextNow]

Are you concerned that if you don't meet him late at night he will think you don't want to get to know him better ? There's no magic and there's no reason for you to meet this almost stranger that late, and when you have to sneak around to do it.

Your gut is knocking...listen to it.

Originally Posted by eclairparty98

Hi golden_eve, I met him on a dating app a few weeks ago and we've been talking every day. We've already had a extra long date and there are no faults i can find in this man so I don't think of him as a stranger.

But I can't tell my parents because they're really protective and I'm worried regarding their reaction. More curfews, shorter time limits etc until I move out. I'm 19 so it's the rules

He occassionally works daytimes on the weekend so it'll still be dark by the time he finishes as it's winter

Hmm... even so, I would still be cautious. A second date at night alone in a car doesn't sound very prudent. Also, how do you plan to date in general if your parents are so restrictive? Seems impossible to date. You may want to rethink this new relationship if you have to keep it a secret. That is going to be a HUGE pain.

[divine1966]

I’d certainly not be meeting a new person late at night and drive in his car. Absolutely no. That’s crazy. If this guy is never around during day time then he is a wrong choice for you. Find a guy with better suited schedule. That’s whole thing is suspicious to me. Please don’t go out at night and don’t ride in his car

[crushed_soul]

If it is okay to ask the following questions, here are some for you: how many times have you met this guy in person? Also, what was your interaction like such as what did you two do, where were you and so forth? Why is dating a secret from your parents?

The act of hopping in his car without, maybe, establishing trust might be a reason to delay agreeing to such an action as others already noted. Why not go somewhere in public such as the movies, dinner, and another location/activity?

Regardless of what anyone else's opinion is (including mine,) it is your decision. please be careful.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by crushed_soul

If it is okay to ask the following questions, here are some for you: how many times have you met this guy in person? Also, what was your interaction like such as what did you two do, where were you and so forth? Why is dating a secret from your parents?

The act of hopping in his car without, maybe, establishing trust might be a reason to delay agreeing to such an action as others already noted. Why not go somewhere in public such as the movies, dinner, and another location/activity?

Regardless of what anyone else's opinion is (including mine,) it is your decision. please be careful.

He said it will be their second date