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Please, tell me. I'm curious
For me, relationships with "emotionally mature" people seem scorning, or that my judgement of an "emotionally mature" person is wrong Now I don't want to make this thread about me. I want to hear how it's like EDIT - Now as for my judgement of "emotional maturity" which I would like some criticism for, is that it seems like another excuse to judge other people for their behaviors, even from the "emotionally mature"'s side Last edited by Anonymous50987; Mar 13, 2018 at 10:20 AM.. |
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I think emotionally mature people are less reactive. If someone insults them, they can just let it roll off them. If they can’t get their way, they give in and don’t throw a fit.
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I am not sure what you mean by them being judgemental of others? When have you encountered this type of behavior? I have not. Emotionally mature people, as far as I have witnessed and experienced, simply don't put up with emotionally immature people's behaviors. They walk away instead and don't even bother feeding into the persons' nonsense. A relationship with an emotionally mature person is like a breath of fresh air!!! It's like living on a whole different planet! It is absolutely necessary for a healthy relationship to exist, imho. I don't know where you are getting the scorn from, but that does not sound like an emotionally mature person at all. |
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I also want to say that fairly emotionally intelligent people can be pushed to be quite infantile. I developed temper tantrums from dealing with a man who repeatedly made false promises and lied to me and suckered me back in until I sunk to a toddler.
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I wouldn’t say I am emotionally mature.
Someone once insulted me and while I appeared unmoved, it bothered me. I have a problem with the term “emotional maturity” though. It’s as abstract as “good and evil”. being composed with opinions rather than solid facts. It makes it hard for me because I just don’t know how to fit in I remember some people with a good emotional maturity. They were kind to be with. However people who are less mature were harder to be around and I’d feel bad when around them at times. Some were not very social, some were hinting or passive aggressive when something was wrong to them instead of saying directly, which I did not like. For example, someone at the GYM told me “You know people don’t interrupt others while exercising, right?”, when I asked him a question while exercising. It didn’t prevent me from being a person who asks questions while people exercise, but I did conclude “That person surely doesn’t like it when others interrupt him while exercising so I won’t interrupt him again” Or this one person who’d tell me to check the notebooks when I asked multiple questions, or “it’s in the computer”. Hated those kind of answers, selfish ******people (excuse my vent). But I was not smart myself, I could’ve been more considering when it comes to giving help Last edited by TheWell; Mar 17, 2018 at 09:22 AM.. Reason: Edited to bring within guidelines |
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I suppose the term “maturity” would suffice. To say “emotional maturity” is over-selling the point, as maturity pertains to emotions any way. You probably get irked by that little extra stab in that catch phrase term.
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I get annoyed by the catch phrase because of all the over focus on many psych terms - emotions, mental, intellectual, physical, cognitive, what not
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Emotional maturity and maturity differ slightly:
Emotional maturity is defined as how well you are able to respond to situations, control your emotions and behave in an adult manner when dealing with others. Definition of mature: fully developed in body or mind, as a person: She was a mature woman who took her family responsibilities seriously. In psychology, maturity is the ability to respond to the environment in an appropriate manner. They seem to be close in definition but emotional maturity deals more so with emotions and our reactions to emotionally charged situations. |
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An emotionally mature person does not cause another to break down. An emotionally mature person handles others' emotions with care, concern and delicacy. "... behave in an adult manner when dealing with others" means treating others with an adult-like maturity. This does not mean causing breakdowns in others... that is emotional manipulation, power and control over another. It seems to me, and I may be off, but those you have dealt with in life whom you think are emotionally mature in fact have been arrogant about their maturity level and also use it as a weapon of power over others. That's just the sense I am getting. That is NOT emotional maturity -- that is about emotional abuse. |
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I don’t think breaking down or degrading others is a sign of emotional maturity.
Emotionally mature people are able to handle confrontation or frustration or other life events without stooping low: degrading themselves or others or otherwise behaving inappropriately. |
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https://www.google.co.il/amp/s/www.p...emotions%3famp According to the article, emotions consist of happiness, sadness, fear, disgust, anger, surprise, anticipation and trust Emotions can be both expressed and explained. And they can also be controlled I’ll try to give a more objective and overall definition of emotional maturity - “A full understanding and fulfillment of the field of emotions”. Let me try - I can say I am happy about taking my decisions in life, sad when I am not getting what I want, particularly a romantic relationship. I am disappointed I can’t fix a relationship although I really want to I am disgusted by people who are critical of others yet do not go by their criticisms I am happy whenever I get a reply here, am sad when I don’t get replies in my threads Well, I am not really emotionally mature regarding the sensation of emotions. However I pride myself on my intellectual levels and I hope people will learn to look BEYOND emotions to find and fulfill our potentials |
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The people I know who are not emotionally mature or not working towards emotional maturity seem to be very unhappy with their lives and very out of control. That's just my experience. __________________ What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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I sometimes feel like I am responsible for my husband or children's emotions, reactions, and actions to a much greater extent than I really am. I am just not that powerful!! This mistaken feeling/belief has caused me and my family a lot of problems from my POV. (It is likely one reason I attempted. ) I can think of times in the past when others are emotionally upset--well, I sometimes mirror their emotions and get all caught up with it. It is an example of having terrible emotional boundaries. I may have even done this in some of my PC interactions!! |
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I'd also like to point out that I used the conditional "if" so I made no conclusion that your emotions were out of control. I speculated about a possible situation using "if" which means "should this situation happen," meaning it is a possibility, not an inevitability. To make that conclusion, I would have had to say "when." __________________ What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... Last edited by seesaw; Mar 17, 2018 at 10:12 AM.. Reason: addition |
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