[bpforever1]

I finally told a guy who kept coming around for booty call that it is was over. I had not seen him since last summer but he contacted me again. I initially thought he would be more interested in me as a person but all he wanted was sex. I did not mind until I realized that is all he wanted and felt bad afterwards. I felt bad because he does not care about me at all. We met last year January and met a few times about once a month. But, then I wanted more because he said initially he wanted a relationship but in reality wanted only sex. I fell for him for awhile then met other men. Then, I realized he was not worth it for me anymore. I think he is a user because he never wanted to spend any money and just came to my apartment then left without any update. I bought him beer, food, etc. He never reciprocated. He is stupid to think that anybody would want him just for sex when he is not great looking although he still can get an erection. I thought he was ok because he is well-educated and has a good job. However, it does not matter to me when we don't communicate and just have sex. I was thinking he is either married or just a odd person who just has sex with just about anybody. Thus, I don't know him as well as I would like I am afraid while he was not in communication with me he could have been having sex with others. I don't want to get any std's. This is the main reason I am letting him go although I told him I am really not interested in being booty call anymore. For some reason, the rate of std's here is rising. I am not surprised since men tend not to use condoms. It is a big problem here.

[SorryShaped]

Holy crap! "Tend not to use condoms!?" Holy crap!

[bpforever1]

Yes, it is really an issue here. Men don't like using condoms here. So, I'm going to stay away from having sex unless I know the man really well. This has not stopped others from having sex though, and it is alarming that the HIV rates are rising here. I live and die only once so want to remain as healthy as possible until my demise. Sex is ok but not when it may kill you.

[eskielover]

Sounds like he looked at you as his FREE prostitute. Not a place I would want to be either.

Yes, STD's, HIV are all a part of unprotected sex. Those who chose to live that way live wuth that risk whether they chose to believe it or not.

Glad you are seeing your situation wisely.

[MickeyCheeky]

Be careful and stay safe.

I have always been a big fan of the rule: no condom, no sex. Exception being that I'm married. If you lose a guy over not wanting to wear a condom, that's not a big loss. Also you should get STD tested anyways. It's good practice if you are sexually active. Not to sound like your mother. Lol.

You will find someone better I guarantee it. There is nothing wrong with casual sex and nothing wrong with wanting a relationship.

[graystreet]

Originally Posted by SorryShaped

Holy crap! "Tend not to use condoms!?" Holy crap!

Yeah well, same with my guy. Still waiting for all the tests to come back.

[SorryShaped]

Please make sure you use them from now on. The wait on those results can be terrible for those I've seen that have to. Be safe. No "piece" is worth "no peace."

[graystreet]

Originally Posted by SorryShaped

Please make sure you use them from now on. The wait on those results can be terrible for those I've seen that have to. Be safe. No "piece" is worth "no peace."

Can't speak for the OP, but from what I knew, I wasn't a booty call. That's why I went through the pain of having an IUD placed.

Shows how much I knew.

Anyway.

Yes. Unless you're in a monogamous relationship, they are important.