Addiction

Ok so i am gonna kinda put myself out there with my own personal experience and hope that someone else has experienced something similar or the same and can give me some advice on how to get thru this or handle it or prevent it.

I am a single mom and i literally crave sexual attention from men. So bad to the point that i have moved my children at least 6 times in the past 3 years because of a man. I have trust issues but it seems my actions would prove otherwise. I seem to get myself into situations that only end with me being devastated and having to move again. I don't know why i get so wrapped up in these guys. Is it because i just believe everything they are telling me, which most times is lies. I don't know how to stop this cycle. I have recently moved back in with my mother because my daughters need stability. Can anyone relate or help me?

I think most of us can relate to addiction in one form or another - whether it is a substance or behavior. Breaking addiction cycles are not easy and there are no easy answers. There are different ways of dealing with addiction and I think that most would agree with me that there is no wrong way to beat an addiction except trading one for another, which from my point of view isn't actually beating the addiction.

While I certainly have maladaptive behavior patterns that I've addicted to, let me compare this to a physical addiction. I'm a recovering addict from drugs. What I did to recover started with abstinence. In your case, abstinence would probably require you to stop dating for a while. Even in recovery from drugs it is often recommended that people don't enter into a relationship for the first year, how much more so for someone who is addicted to relationships?

After a short period of abstinence, I had to start figuring out why I decided that putting poison into my system was a pretty nifty idea. That required some hard work, some digging, and a heft dose of courage. Do you have a counselor that you work with? Because I think that they could be invaluable in helping with the work you've got in front of you to change this behavior. However, that said, I have no doubts that you can do it. I had a $3000+/day drug habit and have been clean 26 years now...if I can beat this with no special skills - you can beat yours.

The first step in recovery is recognizing that there is a problem. I’d focus on finding a good therapist who can help you discover what exactly you are seeking when you are going for this men. And what causes this attraction to unsuitable men. Can you see a therapist now?

Thank you for the advice and i can understand tge comparison. To be honest i am scared to death to be alone. I crave the feeling of being loved no matter how short that time may be. And i am so afraid to admit that openly to anyone. This is the first place i have ever even admitted it to be completely honest.

I have just this past weekend moved so i plan on finding one as soon as i have gotten our insurance switched over. I think i am so afraid to be judged by someone face to face and that is why i have never really shared it with any previous counselors.

Trust me they aren’t going to judge because what you experience isn’t that uncommon. People do all kind of things to avoid being alone or avoid any painful emotions. You can also try finding support group like codependent anonymous.

Ill have to look into something like that. I am typically a very open person except when it comes to things like this, if that makes sense