[bpforever1]

My new man is very supportive of me but is busy. He said he would be willing to meet my father when he arrives here next week. I have met my new man only two times so far. I am wondering if this is a good idea to introduce him to my father. I write my new man every day about all that I do.He acknowledges me. I think I may be driving him crazy but he is still kind. I like him much but wonder if introducing him to my father means we are serious about our relationship or does it just mean I'm just being friendly? When is it appropriate to introduce my parents to him?Does it matter? I'm stupid because most of my other relationships were with married men which I did not know up front or were not serious. What should I do? He is the one who brought up the idea of meeting my father, not me. I don't want to insult my new man and blow off his suggestion. So, should I ask my father to meet him? What do others suggest? Simply perplexed!

I think the question is, what are you most comfortable with doing?

Yes, meeting parents indicates a more serious relationship, imo. I usually wait on that until I am sure that we are in fact an established couple, before letting someone into my life to that level.

He suggested it, but are you ready for something like that, and what is your own interpretation of what it means? It can mean different things to different people, and in different cultures.

[MickeyCheeky]

Just be honest and tell him you want to wait for a little while before doing that, if that's how you feel. If he cares, he will understand

[healingme4me]

I'm on the fence about this, as it is your new friend's suggestion. And you are residing in a different cultural lifestyle. Is this customary, is my wonderment? Your father is coming over to see you. I think, why not introduce them?

[Teddy Bear]

If he wants to meet your family he is serious about you. I don't think it's too soon.

[~Christina]

You have only met your new guy twice. I would hold off , you might decide next get together you don’t like him as much as the excitement of the first couple times.

Just my opinion

[melangey]

Follow your heart. I agree, if HE wants it that is rare and you should do it. My fiancé took me on a 12 hour (6, one way) drive to meet his family after we dated a week.

[bpforever1]

Thank you everybody for your suggestions. I am not sure if my father will want to meet him because my family is very isolated and dysfunctional. My father has no friends and only his immediate family including me, my brother, and my mother. He is not open-minded either. I think I will ask my father and see what he says but don't think he will be willing to meet him. I am not sure but my gut feeling is to wait until my new man and I have been longer together. I think my new man and I really like each other but I am not sure if we will weather the storm so to speak. I am in no rush. My mother also is paranoid and is irritable too. I'm not in any hurry to set up a meeting with him and my mother either. But, eventually, I will allow my parents to meet him if we last. I am afraid he will run like the wind when he meets them. They are not nice people and very opinionated. Thus, it is better to just wait and not burden him with meeting them and feeling bad about it later. I wish my parents were fun-loving, sociable people. But, they are not. This is my burden, not his, for now. Thank you everybody again!