[thekingof8]

I recently posted an update on my Facebook page, finally coming clean to everyone about the state of my mental health. The feedback and support has been overwhelming. I was really touched by what a former high school friend said. I sent her a message and thanked her for her kind gesture. We got a bit of a conversation going, and I finally summoned the courage to ask if she wanted to meet up for a coffee and catch up, and she said she would love to and we plan on meeting this Friday. This isn't a date, since she's already married and has a family of her own, and I am a bit nervous about it.

A couple of weeks ago, I also posted on my timeline that it was 20 years ago that I got my first job at Montana's, and I tagged my friends and uploaded some pictures. We all swapped some memories we had (some not suitable for message boards).

Last week, I started a Facebook group for all of the alumni in the Ottawa area, and uploaded all of my pictures. Nobody has really said anything (there are A LOT of pictures to go through), and I would like to get a reunion together. The thing is, I suck at planning these things, and a lot of people have moved and moved on with their lives and have families now. I feel sad a lot about this, because I miss everyone and I sort of wish I was younger again so we could relive the fun times.

I'm glad I did what I did, but I still feel lonely sometimes.

[frustlandlady]

At least, they agreed to meet you. No matter how many times old friends of mine and I have tried to catch up, it was always ending with empty promises, like 'I would like to meet, we will talk" from their part and never meet after that. People build their lives, they move on and many times their new life does not include you and they have no intension to include you after either.

[thekingof8]

Sadly, that seems to be the case here. Last week, she forgot it was her husband's birthday and had to cancel. I sent her a message last night if tonight was still a go and I haven't gotten a response.

I guess when people start or have a family, it's hard for them to make time.

[downandlonely]

Not that many people showed up to my 10 year high school reunion. There were a lot of arguments on Facebook about what to do for it, and it got pretty heated.

[ArchieAus]

Mid life transition is a difficult period . Sometimes for a period you become much more interested in the people from the past than you have been for many years . Not saying that's you , your just text on a screen so how would I know . It was certainly me .

[melangey]

Consider, too, that her husband might have said no. I'm not sure of your gender, but if my husband wanted to catch up with a girl he went to high school with I'd at LEAST want to go along. And if I couldn't, he couldn't. It's nothing more than setting boundaries.

[thekingof8]

Yesterday morning, she texted me and asked if I wanted to meet for lunch and I said "Yes." I was nervous, but it happened so quickly that I didn't have time to fuss over it. I grabbed a couple of high school yearbooks and drove to her place.


I pulled up and we said hello to each other. She has definitely changed since the last time I saw her almost 20 years ago. She was taller and almost my height (I'm 5'10) and definitely wasn't the spunky pain-in-the *** (I mean that in jest) little kid that I remember. We went to IKEA to pick up some stuff for her cottage. We then picked up something to eat, went back to her place and talked about our mental health experiences. We then looked at the yearbooks and had a few laughs at the pictures, stories and memories we all had.


It was refreshing talking to someone face-to-face who has gone through a somewhat similar situation, and understood me. I'll admit, I was a tad uneasy being in her house, but she did her best to make me feel comfortable.

I certainly hope I can catch up with others as well.