[Stuck1nhead]

... I’m hit with this wave of depression from my girlfriend. She has started to become a toxic person in my life. I know relationships have there ups and downs, but its mostly down the past few months. I mean when does one draw the line? I love of her to death and our lives have become intertwined. But it’s just mentally exhausting. FML

[crushed_soul]

I wish for you to be well, Stuck1nhead. I will not ask for you to disclose more than you have. With that said, if you are judging the circumstances objectively/reasonably and conclude that she is a "toxic person" in your life, the decision of "when to draw the line" is yours. You might "love her to death and your lives are intertwined" as you say, but there are other factors to consider to which you are probably already aware.

Forgive me for asking such a question that you might have already done... have you tried talking with her about the circumstances to which you are alluding, that concern you and so on? If talking is not an option, a relationship might be difficult to maintain, develop and so forth.

[Stuck1nhead]

Originally Posted by crushed_soul

I wish for you to be well, Stuck1nhead. I will not ask for you to disclose more than you have. With that said, if you are judging the circumstances objectively/reasonably and conclude that she is a "toxic person" in your life, the decision of "when to draw the line" is yours. You might "love her to death and your lives are intertwined" as you say, but there are other factors to consider to which you are probably already aware.

Forgive me for asking such a question that you might have already done... have you tried talking with her about the circumstances to which you are alluding, that concern you and so on? If talking is not an option, a relationship might be difficult to maintain, develop and so forth.

Right now her disability is being challenged and she will most likely lose it. Mostly because she is a college grad and has traveled abroad. Personally I think she needs to get off disability anyways. I know her and believe she can support herself, but she’s understandingly scared of loosing her disability. After all she has never supported herself in her entire life.

On top of this, she has terrible habits. She will constantly worry herself until she falls into a severe depression or a anxiety attack. This is the part where she has become toxic. I have chronic depression, ocd, and I’m bipolar as well. So I’ve been down similar roads as she has, but I’ve learned proper coping. I try to help her but she doesn’t believe anything will help and gives up without even trying. When I confront her about not trying she turns it around by saying I don’t understand how she feels or too know what it’s like because I come from a upper middle class family. Which is infuriating because all I did was try and help.

Right now she doesn’t have a counselor either which doesn’t help. A counselor is the only persons advice she takes.

I feel like all we do is talk; mostly about her problems. We talk about how to make things better too now. But it just ends up making a full circle to the original problems after a week or two.