Does therapy heal a wounded heart?

My heart has been wounded deeply, buried in deep pain and sadness
I know I put this in the relationship section, but... it's primarily linked to relationships, particularly current relationships
There were goals I wanted to attain (and still hope to). However, that drivenness has driven me away from my friends, away from the past. It has severely altered my friendships, and I am unsure if I will be able to fix this. I am conflicted with deep anger towards my friends for not being there for me at my hardest times, while also yearning for the connections back. It's like I regret everything and it seems there is no place of return - my "friends" are "busy" (not really busy, just do anything but meeting up with me), and they seem unmoved by my condition (except for one friend who may be more caring, but he can also be bullying at times)

It's interesting to see how much those "friends" did not care about you, not one bit of their time
I am desperately looking for the right therapy for me. It takes more than just finding a therapist for me - it takes finding the person who is most suitable for me, and it's been a daunting search
It's kind of like a square-1 scenario, except I know how much potential I have. So while I have been severely hurt, I did go strong in a way. I have learned so much from the experience.

I am just insulted how much those "friends" were not there for me. I hate how it's always has to be therapy which is there for me. I also want friends to be there for me, just like they would want me to be there for them

That's... all I have to say. I just want my life to get better from all this, but it may seem losing friends was just... not right. I am just unsure anymore

EDIT: From my experience it seems some therapists implement one-sided moralities - "The other person can do bad and you'll have to deal with it", or "Care for others and don't care if they don't care about you".
I remember only ONE therapist so far who was VERY equal. However I am unsure if I will be able to see them, for technical reasons

Your post is heartbreaking. I am sorry you are in so much pain, and I am sorry that your friends are not being supportive enough for you. They may not necessarily need to be discarded, but it does sound like you would benefit from some good therapy.

Really great friends, the ones who stick by you through thick and thin, are hard to find. Also, there's a reason for the saying "fair weather friends". So many people truly are just fair weather friends. It sounds like the friends you speak of, the ones who have left you with deeply hurt feelings, are more so fair weather friends. It doesn't mean they are bad people, but they, like so many out there, may not be able to shoulder anything tougher. Or at least, that's my own interpretation. Many just want friendships for fun and good times, to be honest.

And I have found that we can have different friends for different purposes. Some are once in a while friends, some are more surface friends, some you confide in about certain types of issues, some you can't, and the very few stick by you and are there for you for life, no matter what. Those friends are the truly special ones to find, and are very rare.

A good therapist is also hard to find, but it is SO worthwhile and beneficial once you find the right match.

To answer your thread's subject & question, yes, I do believe therapy can help heal a wounded heart. Wounds can run deep and may be connected to other issues as well, so it is not quick & it is not easy. Some sessions may leave you feeling more sad, but in the end and after some time, therapy will help you see so much more about an issue that you may not initially see or be aware of. Therapy helps give me perspective. And, yes over time, it helps you to heal.

I encourage you to stick with the search to find a good therapist. It's sooo worth it, and when you're in that much pain, a therapist is practically necessary, imho.
HUGS.

The thing is, nobody wants to just be told what to do. That is, nobody smart. Or nobody honest, or who wants to be a true friend. If a person simply does as they are told, they are not respected by others (like sarah huckabee). A person wants to be presented with a problem and given the job of solving it on their own. Even little children are like this. Those are standards that other people have.

So yes, it IS hard to get a couple or a bunch of people with standards of their own, all rowing in the same direction. Whether it is two friends, or a big company, or anything bigger or smaller. Even a website.

Nope. I am not a therapist and (or but) I am not going to lecture on morality.

Therapists say "care for those who only care for you" so you could avoid toxic relationships.

Look, friends aren't as helpful as they are on TV. I may not be the most social of all creatures, but when I was in 10th grade I had three friends which called me "soulmate" And guess what? After taking money from me they left and never came back. Our friendship began at the start of 10th grade and ended at 10th grade. They rarely visit my house. They took money, victimized and left. Here, high school starts at fifth grade and ends at tenth grade.

Also, when I was in tuition last academic year, I made friends with some of the younger boys (not girls, they laugh at me) and they too, tried to victimize me and enjoy on my money. Why? Because they figured out I am mentally ill.

Had I owned a Royal Enfield, was lean, was healthier, had greater social skills and what-not, I would have been loved by my friends. Because why? They rooted in their mind "Oh, he's a retard! Let's extract money from him." I doubt, if I was born to better parents, any of this would have happened.

The world can be a mess if you look at it that way, but you won't get friends like they show in TV. Not trying to make you feel worse by saying "I know more about society than you" but all I am saying is that people can be devils sometimes and not everyone you consider to be a friend has your back. I know instances where kids of my age have so much networking that they're protected (i.e. "Why did you hurt my homie? Why did you look at his girl? I am going to knock your teeth off.")

Even saw one student of my age had his clothes removed and beaten on the streets. I am not popular but I heard a person I know telling another that "he is out of state. (as in "region.") So while yes networking can be very powerful, I believe it requires tremendous hard work (like you know partying all days, attending birth days, attending gym, etc. etc. just for people around there) and also luck (you need to have parents which allow that.)


You cannot blame therapists because the world is such a mess. I mean, I consider myself to be a good person but I don't have any of the "networking" stuff. I mean, even if I die I doubt my cop uncle will do anything. Or my teacher dad will cry. It all is really luck (how you were raised, what your parents think about your maturity and therefore the ability to socialize, your own extrovert-ness etc. etc.)

All the people you consider as friends cannot watch your back.
All therapists aren't looking for only cash and cash.

Too many variables to answer that with a definite yes or no.

Depends on the wound. One big shattering event could be easier to overcome than years upon years of little cuts.

Depends on the therapy. Some types work for some individuals, but not others.

Depends on the therapist. A lemon of a therapist can bungle even a good therapeutic system.

Depends on the client, who must do some hard work.

Depends on the client's support system. People can be such tremendous help, or they can sabotage.

I think I learned a valuable lesson. One friend said "Guess I am not such a good person after all" regarding something bad they did to me. So with that I trust them, and leave