[lovethesun]

A person who can't be in the same class as you because you get good grades? A person who pushes you out of a friendship circle because they want to have the other people focus on them? A person who has decided to join a sports team because its the "popular" team but only has average ability so they resort to manipulation to get a spot. A person who has decided to be friendly towards you because you no longer are in the same class, no longer are a part of the same friendship circle nor do you play the same sport. So in other words you are no longer a threat. And finally, a person who needs awards and public admiration to feel validated so they target specific people with pull and massage their ego in order to get said award. A person who makes it their full time job to manipulate the right people and push their buttons for said award. What does it say about a person like this?

I'm nauseous as I type this description. I believe in hard work and giving someone a fair shot. I believe in earning an award based on merit, honesty and ability. I believe in earning a spot on an athletic team because of ability. And I'm sickened to see a person described above succeed in getting people to do what they want. So much for integrity, huh?! So much for honesty and hard work.

I personally dont concern myself with what other people are doing with their lives. Too much energy. I would end the relationship and move on, focusing on finding more like minded people.

[divine1966]

I don’t care what other people do unless it effects me directly. I might be wrong confusing you with someone else but aren’t you grown up with your own family? What athletic teams or classes are these? Are you attending college? Usually mature college students don’t care about this kind of stuff. Who are these people?

[lovethesun]

Thanks to all who responded. I'm moving on. And I'm looking to others I know who truly are examples of fine character and achievement. They will be my models. Because anyone who cheats eventually loses or fails to find happiness. Their luck runs out eventually.

[~Christina]

I don’t pay attention to others like that. I have enough on my own plate to stay busy with.

[Bill3]

It might say about that person that they have a lot of pain and/or insecurity and/or low self-esteem. It might say that they have been or are being badly hurt.

[eskielover]

I stay clear & have ALWAYS stayed clear of people like that & I do my own thing if they choose to try to associate with me. Yes, I acknowldege what their behavior is like. I am friendly at surface level but keep my distance at the same time

[LifeForce]

I’m not an expert, but have had cause to research the area quite extensively, and I believe that the characteristics you describe are those of someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Best to stay away, to be perfectly honest. You cannot help or “fix” someone like that, especially as they don’t usually want help!

[s4ndm4n2006]

while I am with the others in that for the most part, I don't pay attention to others and how they conduct their lives, but I do actually understand how annoying it can be to see people manipulate others and succeed at it. I'd be lying if I said that this never bothers me, but let it be a passing annoyance and do move on