[sordidmesh]

The "My father died when I was 14 and I raised my younger brother and sister and became the man of the house to my mother so that means I can blame and take it out on anyone who wrongs me" personality

Do any of you know what I am talking about?

Thank you

[Sesquix]

I can somewhat understand what you mean. You assumed role of father in your house and feel like you are still the father figure to your siblings. I can see where they might have conflict with this especially as they are getting older. When I was a teen, I use to go to the bars with my parents on the weekends. When I was old enough to drive I was their designated driver on the weekends. I also worked part-time to pay for high school fees and extra stuff. To me I was the parent of the house. Maybe not so much that I was the parent, I just never had traditional parent models in the house. The end result: I don't respect them as parents really, especially now that I am one. They are more like friends. We are close and have a good realtionship, just not that of parent-child. If you are unhappy with the way you handle family matters, then try to be aware next time "father" mode takes over. If these siblings are grown and make their own decisions, you have to let them find out on their own. Maybe it will make you happier to loosen the grip of the father role.

[gloria]

Not enough information for me to say much other than, there are some anger issues that could use some help.
Have you ask for help from a counselor?

gab

[sordidmesh]

I should add that it is not ME that I am talking about.

It is a former friend who I still have a connection with, a negative one at that.

[gloria]

Well, your friend might need some help. We all do at one point or another.
Let him know, if it is important enough for you, what are the issues you see and tell him you care.

Allthough, sometimes things are better left unsaid. It all depends on how close you are and how much you care.

gab

[Eezer]

dunno if thats exactly a personality disorder of a particular type, i would say it more depends on how he reacts to bein in that situation, altho anitsocial personality disorder springs to mind if hes taking on the role yet bein manipulative, and uncaring, yet ppl still like him as a person.... hmmmmmm that reminds me so much of myself lol

love eezer

[sordidmesh]

This is someone who constantly berates his underlings. Yes, the autoparts industry might not yield the best and brightest but did he always have to resort to name calling and bad language? And not just in one on one encounters, but in front of groups of individuals below him. Something that really got to me was when he used a phrase that I heard him use wth his wife on the phone at work multiple times. I am trying to remember the phrase, but it was a kind of controlling phrase....I'll get back to you all when i remember it...