[Turtle_Rider]

A college's classmate just invited me to her wedding. I'm not close to her, but she's one the nice person in my college so I'm happy for her. But, I don't really want to go there. Simply because: 1) I dont get along with other classmates. I'll be alone for the rest of the party since I don't know other partygoers except my classmates. 2) I hate topic about what I'm doing now. Short story, I picked different career from my major (no further details since it's not this thread's focus, but it something I never regret of). I already got disapproval looks from my peers before. I can guess they would berate me or nag about how wrong my decision was or how stupid I am.

I know it's very silly. Sadly, I don't have any idea what to do. If I go there, I'll get so many questions and judgements for my career decision. But if I don't, there would be a little disappointment even though we're not close.

Another consideration: I have trouble with transportation. I can't take bus. Meanwhile, uber are too costly.

[12AM]

I wouldn’t go, I have a quite similar reason. But I’d send a wedding gift, so that they know I do appreciate their invitation and am happy for them 🎁

I would not go. I just don’t go to events where I don’t feel comfortable. You can easily come up with another commitment that prevents you from going. You can send a card and gift if you feel better doing so.

[WishfulThinker66]

You are not compelled to go. Frankly I wouldn't. And neither are you expected to provide a reason.

[healingme4me]

I'd send my regards and if you can a gift.

[WishfulThinker66]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

I'd send my regards and if you can a gift.

This truly didn't occur to me. Yes, this is a good idea.

[s4ndm4n2006]

Go based on what you think you should do. not what others will think and how they will react.

[Turtle_Rider]

I feel so silly for asking this. Thanks for replying and nice idea. I guess I send her card.