I am done

People lie. Big lies. Small lies. Malicious lies. Purposeless lies.

People also dont want to hear the truth. They refuse to believe you when you try to show them.

People cant just tell it like it is. They have an issue and go passive aggressive. Guess what? Nothing gets fixed with passive aggressive.

People tend to be over abrasive or over sensitive and they want me to read their minds too.

Am I the only person who tells people when they have a problem? Am I the only one who wants people to just spit it out?

I'm so sick of people lying to my face. If I'm asking you about it, assume I know the answer already.

My parents died in their early 40s. I dont take time for granted. I want to have fun, not drama.

My whole life I have never wanted to let anyone go but I cant do this anymore. I feel like I'm constantly kissing the asses of people who wont meet me half way.

I'm losing friends at an unusual rate, but I'm gaining new ones just as fast. It's like a rapid cycle friend change. I have changed. Same core, but more outgoing and wild. Has anyone ever gone through a big change of friend groups? I'm losing high school/ early 20s friends. Gaining new people more like who I am now. Free spirits and crazies.

I'm assuming this is a normal life change, but having borderline makes it a bit overwhelming.

if it is any consilation, I hate people who talk behind my back and lie, as well

if you have something to say, you can say it to my face

I am like this too.

I think honesty is the best policy

lying and hiding stuff just causes issues later on

As we mature into who we really are, we tend to click with a different group of people. If/when we are "free spirits," we can get a lot of flack for it... which isn't helpful at all.

As your social group changes, hopefully better supporting your Being, you will likely experience some grief as you drop off with some friends. Hopefully you will attract new friends who are more in alignment with who you are/becoming!

Be with those who help your Being!

I admire your honesty and adore your "free spirited" nature!

I am much more apt to trust someone who is more honest and forthright, like yourself.

I hope you are having a good weekend.


WC

I think this is a good change you're going through. Weed out the bad apples in your life. I remember in my early 20s going through a similar change and I gained my true friends that I could actually count on.
Embrace this new you and the new friends into your life. Change is good.
I'm very sorry for the loss of your parents at such a young age.

Thanks. Lots of change for me. I will miss them for sure.

In my humble opinion, the decision and status of friends is a constant, conscious choice. Moreover, the choice is a choice for two different people. As a person is constantly becoming and changing towards the future while history unfolds, a person is continually deciding if the other is his/her friend (and other decisions such as how the person chooses to be and not to be and more.)

With that said, I don't think that I've had a "big change of friend groups," but, maybe, I've had a "big change" in my perspective on friendship, on past friends, present friends, and deciding who is(was)/is(was) not a friend and why. Additionally, the amount of people, whom I'd call "friends" has decreased over the years. Likewise, the people, who were/are my "friends" might no longer be my "friend" due to a variety of possible factors. In some cases, people reveal(ed) that they are(were) not friends to me rather I judge(d) that they are(were) not my friends.

For me, acquaintances and friends are not equivalent. Moreover, a "'close' friend" is difficult to find. I might be friendly with how ever many people, but those people and I are not necessarily friends. Even if we are, we might not be close friends. (Again, all the of aforesaid could change, depending upon how the present unfolds and changes towards future.)

I have far fewer friends and close friends than I once had. Perhaps, this will change, especially because the present is constantly changing (as am I) and the future is nonexistent.

(If my reply is circumlocutional, I apologize.)

"Am I the only person who tells people when they have a problem? Am I the only one who wants people to just spit it out?"

Nope, you're not the only one. I think that's the case for a lot of us borderline folk tbh, and I am definitely one of those. I don't understand hints 95% of the time, I will either get it wrong or not understand something is missing, so it frustrates me and the other person when I'm not getting it. I also lack the ability to just hint at things, and because people are so used to hints from "normal" people it can cause issues when I'm seen as "blunt" (I try my best not to be rude though).

As for the change in friends, I experienced similar, but people don't come back as rapidly for me anymore, and even when they did it was all online - no IRL friends since high school. I've just gotten sick of trying when they're all going to leave anyways. My fear of abandonment has taken such a strong hold on me lately, I just can't deal with people coming and going.

I really relate to this. Thank you so much for letting me know I'm not alone.