Date somebody with no spark

I asked my neighbor out (we’ve dated before) but I feel guilty because I really don’t have any spark for her. It’s a matter of of hey I’m very lonely date - it’s okay if we just do it as friends but I might keep persuing it if she shows any interest. Like I said I’ve dated her before and she’s nice but I didn’t really have any great desire to keep going. I know it sounds selfish but.....

If there is really no interest on your end, why bother? That's basically using somebody.

For some people, appetite comes in the eating.

If someone doesn’t feel spark for me, I’d rather they not date me out of loneliness.

She’s really nice and she lives really close by (neighbor) but I don’t find her that exciting to be around (and vice a versa probably). There ain’t no bling and that’s unfortunate because we’ve actually dated before and it would be familiar territory. Problem is she never seemed that excited when we did date so maybe I should just bow out and get back to my solo journey - whatever....

Can you just be friends with her? It could be a fulfilling friendship perhaps. Somebody to keep you company but without the guilt of dating someone you’re not really attracted to... ?

I really don’t understand the dilemma. You both aren’t excited about each other or that interested in each other then why dating? Because she lives close by or is nice? Like I said I’d be very hurt if someone dated me for just that reason. Why is it either or? Date this not exciting woman or be alone?

It sounds like you can appreciate her good qualities. That, to me, can be a valid reason for spending time with her.

Why call it a date. Every time you go out with someone of the opposite sex ( or same sex come to that) it doesn't have to be a date. If you like each others company as a friend so what.If you don't , don't do it. Simples.

Meh, going out together as friends sounds like a great idea. Nothing wrong with having a companion to hang out with. I would suggest that you don't mislead her, though, just because that could end up really messy.

It seems you would only be getting together with her to resolve loneliness rather than because you really like spending time with her. It's better to be alone than to choose someone merely to fill a void. Like I said, that's basically using someone, and as Divine points out, that's hurtful to do to someone. And it is leading them on.

We’re already friends - we don’t hang out though. Talk to her a bit.... she’s my neighbor.... that’s the problem it would be awkward if one of us decided that there should be more - don’t know if I’m saying anything new...

Well, you can always try. Don't bring up the topic when you're with her, eventually.