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Old Sep 19, 2018, 01:38 PM
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I don’t know why I let the behavior of other people get to me so much. I can’t control how other people behave... Yet I take things personally and get my feelings hurt. Someone wisely told me today that the way people behave is about them and not about me... and not to take what they do so personally... just accept it AND don’t give them the opportunity to do it to me again. Just felt sad about it today...
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Old Sep 19, 2018, 03:03 PM
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Old Sep 21, 2018, 10:58 AM
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The advice you recieved is absolutely correct. That doesnt mean it doesnt hurt when we are treated poorly. I tell my kids that their world is not made of what other people do and say. It's made of how they respond and treat others. Do things that make you feel good. When people treat you badly? They are poisoning themselves more than anything.
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Old Sep 21, 2018, 12:11 PM
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I agree with that advice.
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Old Sep 21, 2018, 08:05 PM
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The advice you recieved is absolutely correct. That doesnt mean it doesnt hurt when we are treated poorly. I tell my kids that their world is not made of what other people do and say. It's made of how they respond and treat others. Do things that make you feel good. When people treat you badly? They are poisoning themselves more than anything.
Thank you. Sometimes it’s just good to hear this again.
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Old Sep 23, 2018, 12:14 PM
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I have someone in my life who does that. I learned just not to respond with anything that counters her thinking because she will either attack (with what she proudly thinks is her debating skills) or come back with some disming statement to the countering thought.

I learned early on not to take things personally from a mom who did nothing but take things personally. Observation helped me learn then personal experience & the more confident I became in myself the less personal I felt about things too. Understanding that it was them with the issue not me....though I think self-confidence does play some role in it also.

However in my analytical mind when someone does say something I always analyze it to see if there is any part of it that I might want to apply to myself personally to make any improvements that actually might help me.
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Old Sep 23, 2018, 12:58 PM
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I’m also very emotionally sensitive and unfortunately take things personally. It is very hard to let it go when it affects you so much. I’ve tried mindful meditation to help and when it’s between my husband and I - I usually say I need time to respond and process because I’m too emotionally charged and need time to let that go. My husband understands and supports me in this process.
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