Sexiest man alive. IÂ’m surprised People magazine didnÂ’t choose him year after year. HeÂ’s taken and IÂ’m also taken. Where should I go from here? My BF doesnÂ’t like when I tell him the other guy is sexy.

And for the record, I never spoke about this at work. I only told my BF and classmates. Since weÂ’re both taken, would it be ok to simply treat him as a work husband? Like mildly flirt only at work but not associate with each other outside of work.

[~Christina]

No no no

Everyone sees attractive people but we don’t tell our SO , why cause a loved one pain?!!

Flirt with your boss ??? Are you wanting to get in trouble at this job?

Work is work

[divine1966]

What??? Why is it ok to flirt with your boss and why are you telling your boyfriend that your boss is sexy? Are you trying to get in trouble at work and cause pain to your boyfriend? Why? Please don’t do any of it

Originally Posted by ruby2011

Where should I go from here?

Nowhere. Stay in your cubicle.

[Albatross2008]

NO! He is not your "work husband" and should not be treated as anything other than your boss. Flirting at work is completely inappropriate.

[lady411]

I agree with all of the above except the OP. Totally bad idea to tell the boyfriend and to think about flirting with anyone at work especially your boss.

Ruby, what are you thinking? You cannot flirt with your boss and he cannot be your work husband. That is highly inappropriate. Bad idea to tell your bf that your boss is sexy too. I wouldn't flirt and I wouldn't mention it to your bf again.

[MickeyCheeky]

No, don't flirt with your boss.. and how did your BF react when you told him this?

[Bill3]

No, it would not be okay to flirt with your boss. Don’t do it.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

No, don't flirt with your boss.. and how did your BF react when you told him this?

She said he didn’t like it. No kidding! Who’d like to hear that?

[MickeyCheeky]

Thanks, I didn't read it I wouldn't like that, either...

I agree with everyone else that your behavior is very inappropriate. Telling your boyfriend? That's hurtful. Flirting on the job? I mean, if you want to lose your job...

I would like to point out that you could cross into sexual harassment territory, particularly as you struggle with boundaries. For the sake of your job and relationship, please dont.

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

No, don't flirt with your boss.. and how did your BF react when you told him this?

He asked me what about him? Where does he fall in my sexiness rating?

Ok since everyone is unanimous in their replies, then it must REALLY be a horrible idea to flirt at work. I decided to keep it professional at work and never mention it to my BF again. Thx God I asked this question before my boss knows anything about my feelings for him. Now I can nip it in the bud before I actually do/say anything. I'm glad my supervisor knows nothing of this and now he won't ever know.

Originally Posted by ruby2011

Ok since everyone is unanimous in their replies, then it must REALLY be a horrible idea to flirt at work. I decided to keep it professional at work and never mention it to my BF again. Thx God I asked this question before my boss knows anything about my feelings for him. Now I can nip it in the bud before I actually do/say anything. I'm glad my supervisor knows nothing of this and now he won't ever know.

Please acknowledge yourself for how amazing you are doing. It is much better to ask BEFORE doing something than after. You are working hard and should be proud of yourself.

[divine1966]

Good job 👏🏻

[TishaBuv]

I love this post. I’m just curious, Ruby, what would being an at work husband entail?

I’m just being light hearted, not teasing. I like you spunk.

And yes, I agree, flirting at work will get you fired and probably get your bf in a fist fight.

Originally Posted by KissTheRain

Please acknowledge yourself for how amazing you are doing. It is much better to ask BEFORE doing something than after. You are working hard and should be proud of yourself.

I agree with KissTheRain, Ruby. Be proud of yourself for asking and realizing before you did anything really bad. And you are correcting yourself. Good for you. That's growth.

Wait, let's think this through. If her boss becomes her 'at work husband', and they were to have an 'at work divorce', wouldn't she then be entitled to 'at work alimony'?

Originally Posted by Frank Crankshaft

Wait, let's think this through. If her boss becomes her 'at work husband', and they were to have an 'at work divorce', wouldn't she then be entitled to 'at work alimony'?

Only if I work for him 10 years minimum. Cuz alimony only applies to 10+ years of marriage.