[s4ndm4n2006]

Ok so here I am again with a lady of interest and questions about whether I'm interpreting things optimistically or if I'm right.

So I frequent a certain fast food restaurant but have not been back there for awhile so this girl was new to me. Anyway long story short, I pulled up to the drive through window and since my car's power window is broken, I had to open the door and get out to go pay. kind of awkward but anyway... As I approached, I just stated matter-of-fact that "my window is broken" to the girl taking my money. Now it's hard to place this but the way she regarded me and smiled at the time "seemed" like interest or attraction. Now I am not one to assume women think I'm interesting or attractive typically as I dont' really think that much of my looks or anything so I'm rather skeptical but I'll be honest, it really caught my attention and made me curious because there really was something seemingly there in her behavior. Anyway it was brief and she followed up with "have a lovely night/evening! (not sure I remember which she said)" and Off I went but for the rest of the night I could not shake the feeling that there was something that just happened.

so the next night I took a chance. I just wanted to confirm my suspicions and this time I went inside the restaurant. I was at the counter ordering and I noted she was working the drive through area again. She actually walked toward the front for whatever reason but when she looked over and saw me, she started smiling, like visibly happy. Now as a skeptic one might think it was just a friendly thing but to be honest, I can remember thinking "wow, she is interested." I don't think that easily about women as I said so it kind of underscores her reaction, I think? as I ate I did notice her come out a couple of times doing whatever... in the front but I can't say 100% that she came out and looked over at me more than briefly.

Anyway am I being too hopeful or how do I interpret this more realistically?

[TishaBuv]

I always find you to be an exceptionally intuitive person. If you sense she’s interested, I’d trust that instinct. Are you interested in her? Chat her up, get friendly, ask her out or to have coffee once she gets done with her shift there at the restaurant.

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

Ok so here I am again with a lady of interest and questions about whether I'm interpreting things optimistically or if I'm right.

So I frequent a certain fast food restaurant but have not been back there for awhile so this girl was new to me. Anyway long story short, I pulled up to the drive through window and since my car's power window is broken, I had to open the door and get out to go pay. kind of awkward but anyway... As I approached, I just stated matter-of-fact that "my window is broken" to the girl taking my money. Now it's hard to place this but the way she regarded me and smiled at the time "seemed" like interest or attraction. Now I am not one to assume women think I'm interesting or attractive typically as I dont' really think that much of my looks or anything so I'm rather skeptical but I'll be honest, it really caught my attention and made me curious because there really was something seemingly there in her behavior. Anyway it was brief and she followed up with "have a lovely night/evening! (not sure I remember which she said)" and Off I went but for the rest of the night I could not shake the feeling that there was something that just happened.

so the next night I took a chance. I just wanted to confirm my suspicions and this time I went inside the restaurant. I was at the counter ordering and I noted she was working the drive through area again. She actually walked toward the front for whatever reason but when she looked over and saw me, she started smiling, like visibly happy. Now as a skeptic one might think it was just a friendly thing but to be honest, I can remember thinking "wow, she is interested." I don't think that easily about women as I said so it kind of underscores her reaction, I think? as I ate I did notice her come out a couple of times doing whatever... in the front but I can't say 100% that she came out and looked over at me more than briefly.

Anyway am I being too hopeful or how do I interpret this more realistically?

I think that she could have been interested. However, there's no real way to know unless, really, you ask her. Or have more interactions with her, or ask her out yourself.

[MickeyCheeky]

((((s4ndm4n2006)))) It doesn't hurt to try, right? I'd ask her out and see where it goes from there. You can do it! Let us know how it goes

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

I always find you to be an exceptionally intuitive person. If you sense she’s interested, I’d trust that instinct. Are you interested in her? Chat her up, get friendly, ask her out or to have coffee once she gets done with her shift there at the restaurant.

thank you for saying this. I do remember feeling pretty strongly about how I interpreted things but as I can be a doubtful person I tend to start questioning as time goes on and I get further from a particular event, I don't know if that makes much sense but thanks for this.

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by KnitChick

I think that she could have been interested. However, there's no real way to know unless, really, you ask her. Or have more interactions with her, or ask her out yourself.

I know it's going to eventually come down to that. I'm no good with such things. XD surely I will muck it up somehow lol.

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

I know it's going to eventually come down to that. I'm no good with such things. XD surely I will muck it up somehow lol.

Yeah, I rethought that myself. The asking her out part. That's pretty soon for some, especially if you're not sure. Why not just...enjoy her there while you go in to the restaurant? Nothing wrong with crushing on someone that way, gathering more info, chit chatting, etc. Maybe there will be a moment in the future where the time will feel more right to ask her out. Or you will say "Heck with it," and just do it. It doesn't have to be now.

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by KnitChick

Yeah, I rethought that myself. The asking her out part. That's pretty soon for some, especially if you're not sure. Why not just...enjoy her there while you go in to the restaurant? Nothing wrong with crushing on someone that way, gathering more info, chit chatting, etc. Maybe there will be a moment in the future where the time will feel more right to ask her out. Or you will say "Heck with it," and just do it. It doesn't have to be now.

Yeah I'm not rushing into asking her out. I do want to have a chance to get to know her and see where that goes

I did go back but it was a busy night and although I think she saw me she was too busy with the customers to even acknowledge.

Could be either she's interested or maybe she's just treating you the way management trained the staff to treat customers. How does she treat everyone else? Other customers I mean.

[divine1966]

You honestly can never know unless you ask.

I have a side job in retail and am routinely act happy when I see repeated customers. I always laugh and smile to everybody. I’d feel awful if they thought I am romantically interested as I am married plus am not a flirty type just a very social person.

Saying that it’s absolutely possible that she is interested. I don’t agree with others that you need to be going to the place and chatting her up. What for. I dint see how you can get to know her while she is filling up your order. She is at work. If you are interested in asking her out, do so. If you are feeling akward to ask her directly, give her your business card or phone number or write her a note. I’d be direct. If she says no or ignores it, you’ll have your answer. If you would feel akward visiting that place after rejection, then you can always go to a different restaurant after that.

I’d not waste time getting my hopes up or playing guessing game. I’d want to get an answer and move on.

Hmm.... it could be that she took a liking to you. I would keep going back, not in a creepy way, but in a casual way, and it seems you're already doing this. Then you may get more of an actual idea of whether she is showing special consideration of you, or whether it's just normal for her. I am guessing if you sense there's an attraction, there probably is.

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by whispershadow

Could be either she's interested or maybe she's just treating you the way management trained the staff to treat customers. How does she treat everyone else? Other customers I mean.

I know what you mean but quite honestly I'm not one to assume it's attraction typically. i assume people are being friendly and professional 90% of the time. I just dont' think it happens quite often so I'm a bit skeptical and have a tendency to miss flirting when it does happen lol.

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by golden_eve

Hmm.... it could be that she took a liking to you. I would keep going back, not in a creepy way, but in a casual way, and it seems you're already doing this. Then you may get more of an actual idea of whether she is showing special consideration of you, or whether it's just normal for her. I am guessing if you sense there's an attraction, there probably is.

Yeah I don't wnt to be weird or creepy and go in there 5 times in a week lmao. that's just weird.

I did go back in again and she was working the front. it was too busy tho and there was a line. She did make eye contact with me before I was being served when I was in line and she was helping others, but nothing definitive.

While divine said not to play guessing games, I don't feel that going in a few times to feel things out is really playing games, but sometimes when you become somewhat of a regular customer it opens up more opportunity to say "hey how are you today" etc, while if it was the first or second time I was there while she was there it might seem out of place to be too casual, you know? I say all this as if I know what I'm doing but really I have no idea and am guessing hahaha.

thanks for your input.