[kbrimull]

I have recently been talking with a boy who has expressed that he has feelings for me, and I admitted that I liked him back. It has been complicated recently though because I can tell his feelings are more intense than mine are, which makes me feel uncomfortable like I have to live up to an expectation. I also am very introverted and like to have my private time to recharge because I do not feel like he is someone I can recharge around yet. I expressed to him that I needed space because I felt overwhelmed by the amount of time he wanted to spend with me. He said he understood and would give me space; however, he has not appeared to do that in the slightest. We have always texted every day, but now he has been constantly asking me to spend time with him, whether that is to walk me to work or drive me home from work or sit with me while I study. It makes me feel anxious and pressured, especially because every time I say no I feel like I have to justify why I am saying no. Then he usually picks apart my reasons and tells me why they aren’t valid reasons and always refranes it so there aren’t any obstacles in his mind preventing us from spending time together. I am starting to wonder if this is all my fault and that I am overreacting. I also feel like I am not meant to be in a relationship, like there is fundamentally wrong with me that can’t commit to being in a romantic relationship even thought I have never had any bad romantic experiences. I don’t know what to do because I tried to talk to him about it and nothing changed, and now I feel anxious every time he texts me because I’m afraid it will be another excuse to hang out that I will have to say no to and feel guilty for saying no or say yes and feel anxious because I have not had time to recharge. I feel like he doesn’t give me any space to actually want to spend time with him, but then I feel guilty because he always tells me how much he misses me and how he never sees me. He says all the right things that I’ve wants to hear in a relationship and I really liked him at the beginning, but now I feel unsure and trapped and I am really insecure and anxious. Any advice or insight would be appreciated.

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm so sorry you're struggling, kbrimull Everyone needs some space, and I think it's very worrying that he doesn't respect your wishes. For an happy relationship, both people must be happy, otherwise it won't work... so I'd say either try to explain this to him, or end the relationship and find someone else that's actually listening to you. I'm sorry you have to deal with this