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Okay, so my mother? I've learned one way to deal with her; just nod and not process anything that she says. Because, well, when I do, I think about it more and I just end up trying to help her about it. So I try not to care about her problems anymore, they're all the same anyway. I've heard them all and told her possible solutions to each and every one. I refuse to listen to her.... and I clean when I'm home, clean alot. It keeps me distracted.
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Is it just me, or are there more and more teenagers that need to be at these forums? what is causing my fellow youthful society to become so.... well, blatantly put... so screwed up? Man, I love being crazy... (facetiously, that is)

Life is not a fairy tale

[heidu]

It does seem like there are more and more young people with serious problems these days. I think it's a lack of faith, structure and solid parenting myself.
Glad you found some way to deal with mom. I do that too. I found as long as I am there she doesn't really notice that I am not listening. That makes me sad but what can you do. I guess I just accepted that as who she is. We can't change or really do anything for them.
I know how this is making you feel and I feel bad for you cause I hate to see people go thru this. I know it just sucks.
Hope you have a good day. Dang your house must be clean!!
Heidu

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In a way, I'm happy to hear that I'm not alone in this crazy world of... akward parenting, and yet I'm sad it happens to others. Thanks for ... well, thanks for responding to me. I think that I look forward to reading responses of my post, and seeing one-a positive, sympathetic one- brightens my mood. It's good to know that someone is listening.

Life is not a fairy tale

[jennie]

if it works...how can it hurt?

i found this quote online by Marie-France Hirigoyen <u>
Stalking the Soul: Emotional Abuse and the Erosion of Identity</u>
"The only protective mechanism for child victims of emotional abuse is to cut themselves off from the situation; subsequently, their identity erodes, the deep core of their soul dies. Everything left over from childhood is perpetually reenacted as an adult."

i challenge you to learn to develop healthy boundaries, risk love, and strive for honesty in your relationships. learn as much as you can about what defines "emotional abuse."

i know how scary it is to work through the issues that have hurt our self-worth. the issues won't go away on their own, no matter how much you try to ignore them.

i found this website click here for: Abuse Signs. Visit Dr Irene's whole website it is really good and may give you on insight on how these issues could manifest in your other relationships. i hope to hear more from you. let me know what you think about the website. (((Huggs)))

[heidu]

Start,
Just glad I could help in some way and it does me good to know I have even if it's just a little.
You take care of you!!
Heidu