Jealousy after one date?

Okay so I took this young lady out to lunch. I didn’t really follow up for a second date because I’m being cautious (I’m old so I need to be). So I saw her again and she was with a friend. I started talking to her friend and she seemed to get a little frustrated. I was debating about asking her out again but it seems like she may be a bit on the possessive side. Maybe it’s me because it’s been a while since I’ve actually been in this situation but it seems a bit early to have this reaction. I’m a little hesitant to take this further but wouldn’t mind having a lunch buddy.... Thanks....

Is she the one that already has a boyfriend?

No and it was her idea to go out...

If it were me i'd go on the next date and ask about what her frustration was about in the most non confrontational manner I could. Whether that's a smart move i'll leave that up to everyone else.

IWeigh the pros and cons and ask yourself if you'd still enjoy her company despite you thinking of the possibility of not taking it further.

Her frustration could have been due to any number of things other than jealousy. She could have been wanting to spend alone time with her friend and was frustrated that you kept the conversation going, she could have been late and wanted to get somewhere, she could have sensed her friend was uncomfortable, she could have been in a bad mood— anything. Jumping to the conclusion that she was jealous seems like a stretch. I would simply proceed based on whether or not there is mutual interest.

So was it a date or just a friendly lunch? How young is she?

Don’t know - what’s the difference. A couple of weeks ago she asked me when we were going to lunch. I had no intention of asking her out until she said that. She’s twenty two - she said she wanted to do Sushi.... I don’t know but it was sure nice having company for lunch..... seems interested in doing it again and I’m not that busy or in demand.... besides I’m tired of walking around like some sort of ghost... people are going to say she’s way too young but she’s a real live person.... thanks

you had said that she was already involved when you mentioned she wanted to do lunch. if she doesn't have a boyfriend already how is she already involved?

At 22 it’s unkikely that it was a romantic date, more likely friendly lunch, why would she be jealous or possessive. No offense but romance wuth such age difference is unlikely. But there is nothing wrong with having friendly lunch with people. And she was probably frustrated with something else. Maybe just wanted to have time with her friend

I think it’s a different woman

Where do you meet these women? Hobby group? Neighbor? Gym? Dating venue of sorts?

Place where you meet could determine if it’s romantic interest or not. My daughter belongs to genealogy society which is all quite older people, she is the only younger one. When president of the society, older gentleman, comes to town he always has lunch with my daughter. She’d be shocked if he thought they have romantic potential.

What makes you think she is romantically interested? Jealous?

If it is just a friendly lunch, I'd keep it going. If she has a problem with something, she's the one that has to speak up about it. So I'd try it out at least once more and see how it goes. I'm not sure I understand if you're seeing her as a potential mate, though. Is she on the same page as yours? I think you need to clarify things with her right from the start, or there could be problems in the future. Sending many hugs to you

You're a 60+ year old man chasing a 22 year old woman? Be careful. If she starts asking for money to help her sick old mother or wants to get a new pair of ta-tas--run for the hills.

Yep it’s a different woman - this one I met through a friend....

Been solo so long this could be a question for me.... I’ve built such a wall that I get nervous letting anybody in. Thing is I’m actually afraid something might happen then I’d be obligated.... I know it’s distorted but that’s where my head is at - so sad st my age... okay enough ranting.... thanks l

PS she did seem a little defensive when I talked to her?????

What do you mean by "something"? You mean romantic feelings? I don't think you have any obligation - you can always refuse, after all. What makes you think she was acting defensive? Sending many hugs to you

You aren’t obligated to do anything.