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Dec 10, 2007, 01:44 AM
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Well not so long ago, about a yr ago my boyfriend & his father stop talking. I've asked him if anything happen between them that might have caused it but he says no. I know it hurts my bf because he doesn't like talking about it & when he has he cries. He tells me he's tried talking to his dad even has cried to him, everyone else has tried talkin to him about it too, but all he says is " i don't have nothing to say about it right now" it hurts me deeply bc i hate 2 see my bf hurting & i feel its also affecting my bf's communication skills w/ everyone else. I wanna help so bad but i need to know how to approach this, how can i help before its too late?!
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Dec 10, 2007, 05:02 AM
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At the moment I would suggest that you just be there for your bf when (and if) he decides to talk about this situation...... in the mean time leave it alone and try to enjoy life & love with your bf - he needs that.
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Dec 10, 2007, 10:15 AM
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Welcome to PC bella88
Isn't it so hard to watch someone we love going through hurtful situations and not really be able to help them solve those situations?? I understand where you are coming from. I think Rhapsody is right in being there with open ears and arms when and if your bf decides he wishes to talk about the situation. Other than that, there is nothing you can do to make the problem go away. This is between your b/f and his dad. The best thing you can do is be there for your b/f and not harp on the situation. Let him process things in his own way, he will come up with his own solutions in how best for him to deal with things. Remember, men communicate differently than women do. Most times they are not as verbal as women are when it comes to voicing their concerns, especially if they don't have ways of "fixing" things. Like Rhapsody, my suggestion is to be there with hugs and lots of love and validation for how he is feeling. That will mean a lot to your b/f. I wish you both well!  sabby |
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Dec 15, 2007, 06:26 AM
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Maybe you can find someone he can talk this out with. It's an obvious sore subject for him. There's more hurt going on here than what he wants to talk about with anyone close to him..you, friends, other family mbrs, etc. Just be there for him. Let him know you're there for him. Keep communication open between you. But I'd find him someone to talk to that's not going to make him feel judged.
Happy Holidays! Ocean
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