[Carmina]

I realised today that I can't face a relationship even though I feel incredibly lonely and in serious need of love and affection. It's just impossible. I made contact with someone on OKC today who actually seemed to like me and we chatted for a couple of hours but all the time I was getting more and more anxious because I really liked her but straight away feel no one can really love me. This fear becomes overwhelming after a while, I know if I got closer it would be unbearable.

I feel so stuck, can't do relationships, can't be on my own either, hookups are empty and I lack the confidence to approach women anyway, and paying for sex is out of the question and even more empty (plus not really what I need, sex is secondary).

[hvert]

Do you think you will meet up with that woman from OKC? Who knows what will happen if you do - maybe you will hit it off and live happily ever after, maybe you'll click for six months and then split. Maybe you won't like the way she does her hair or she won't like your shoes. There's just no way of knowing ahead of time, no matter how many times we run it through our minds. Dating is so stressful.

[Kmilla]

Truth is, you just have to overcome it. I just asked out a man 35 yrs older than me. Think hes gonna say no and would be very intimidated to try and have sex with him and everything. Go for things even if they are uncomfortable. You only live once.