Do you worry when your bf doesn’t text you back same day?

I worry and overthink too much. I spoke to my boyfriend a couple times yesterday. We also texted (was with him the night before) I knew he had a lot of running around to do but I texted him early evening with no response. I then called him later in the evening and he didn’t pick up. I left it alone because I figure he must be busy. As the evening progressed however, I thought he rarely ever doesn’t reply to my text message. So I built up all kinds of scenarios. Is he ok? Ignoring me? Breaking up? With someone else? It didn’t make sense that he wouldn’t reply to a text. Perhaps I’m overreacting..I wish I could relax and quit worrying

I'm never busy for the woman I love. I couldn't imagine going all day without messaging her back. Even if I'm at work I might go a couple hours at most before I reply. I message her everyday, I love you and you're the most beautiful woman in the world. I also message her to have a great day and I'll see her after work.

Might be possible your boyfriend wants some space? Don't judge him by my standards because I go above and beyond for my girlfriend. But I'm bipolar and I do everything for her and surprise her with presents every week just because.

Hang in there. You might talk to your boyfriend about it. Great communication between the 2 of you is greatly important.

How many hours has it been? If it has been less than 24, don't worry too much. His phone might have died or something.

Is he actually a boyfriend, as kind of serious, or is it just casual dating? I am married so it’s differrnt but when we dated there is no way he wouldnt reply unless he was at work which I would already know about. I honestly don’t recall serious boyfriends who wouldn’t reply to texts or calls, but someone you just started dating (and he might be dating more than one person) or someone you date casually might not reply. So how serious is this guy about you?

Oh is this the same guy who asks for space but then goes to wild parties and sends pictures of bottles? I don’t want to upset you or others but I prefer to be real. I don’t think this relationship has much future.

I'm so sorry, Gymgirl71 Try not to worry too much about it. Perhaps he's just busy at the moment. Just let some time pass. How much time has passed exactly? If it is only a few hours, I wouldn't worry too much about it. If more than a day has passed, I'd suggest to try to call him. Is it something important or is it just a friendly, light-hearted chat? I remember he's said he needs some space. I'm so sorry, I know it's hard. Please don't give up. I hope things will get better soon for you and your boyfriend. Is there anything we can do to help you? Please let us know. Remember that we're here for you if you need it. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this

we talk and text everyday. I talked to him until mid afternoon. I didn’t make a big deal out of it because we talk everyday.

was only a few hours he texted me this morning..still how hard is it to reply to a text that he’s busy or whatever? I am going to stop being so available, it isn’t working well.

I think it really depends on where you guys are regarding the stage of your relationship. My boyfriend and I live together, so if I didn't hear from him for a long stretch of time I would be worried. But if I was just casually dating someone, I wouldn't stress over it.

we are in a relationship but it’s only 3 months in. This isn’t his norm to not reply to a text.

It really would depend on the relationship. There is no hard fast rule here. Most of all it matters whether you two are on the same page regarding your interpretation of the relationship itself.

You say it's been a few months...that's a significant amount of time. Why not chat with him about it? Nothing heated or accusatory. Just something simple like "I feel you communicate a bit differently lately...how are things going...everything okay?" Something like that. See what he does with it.

Dating isn't easy, is it? I remember that feeling! I wish you peace

I see noted that he texted in the morning? Was he out drinking? I saw mentioned a reference to a previous thread about texting pics of bottles of alcohol? Maybe he was too far gone to type? Which in and of itself wouldn't seem problematic but for me it's a curious type of warning sign based upon my own personal life experiences.

I don’t know... most relationships don’t get that serious in 3 months. Do you think it’s significant amount of time? Usually first 3 months is kind of getting to know the person and seeing if the right fit.

I agree dating isn’t easy though

Hey GymGirl,

just so you know by a 'significant amount of time' I meant that is long enough to be able to chat about your communication concern with the guy. Good luck

I think that's the important part right there, whether he is doing something out of the norm in a relationship.

But first give him the benefit of doubt and see if he has a legitimate excuse.

You took what I said wrong. Talk to him about how you feel when you're ignored in the evening. That's the communication that I'm talking about. Posting here about it won't clear up why he won't answer or reply to your messages. It will fuel more paranoia and doubt by asking someone there opinion, there's many possibilities out there. Resorting to speculation won't be good for anyone.

If it wasn’t a big deal, then you likely wouldn’t ask here. Do you not want to rock the boat and ask him what’s going on wit some of his behaviors?

What if his phone died and he can't find a charger?
What if he accidentally left his phone somewhere?
What if he lost his phone?
What if he put it on silent, or turned it off, and forgot to restore it to active?

That's a lot of what ifs. If it was me and it keeps happening I'd talk to my gf, if I had one. But maybe not because I wouldnt want to hear bad news and open it up for a breakup. Being totally alone sucks. Hopefully it all works out.