[ZenZeta]

So I've been seeing a new guy for almost three months. Actually, it's someone that I've known through mutual friends for 5 years that I finally decided to give a chance...

One of our mutual friends called to invite me to a housewarming, and I asked her if I could bring someone. Initially, she said yes, but when I told her who I was seeing, she asked me not to bring him because she was inviting two of his ex's to the event.

I am fully aware of his dating past with both these women, and he is aware of men that I dated within the same circle, but I can appreciate the potential awkward situation this could create, so I perfectly understood her reasons for asking us to sit this one out.

However, this friend has been know to . . . talk, and I am sure that the news that this guy and I are dating will get around.

I'm by no means ashamed of the relationship, and I would venture to say that he isn't either (he's introduced me to close friends and family), but I'm wondering if HE should have been the person to share this in that circle.

Of course it's too little too late now, but should I tell him that I spilled the beans?

[divine1966]

I don’t think it matters unless he specifically told you to keep your relationship a secret. Is there a reason you worry about it?

I hope it’s a different guy, not the one mad you wouldn’t go to Vegas. It was less than 3 months ago but maybe you were dating more than one person (which is fine)

[ZenZeta]

Originally Posted by divine1966

I don’t think it matters unless he specifically told you to keep your relationship a secret. Is there a reason you worry about it?

I hope it’s a different guy, not the one mad you wouldn’t go to Vegas. It was less than 3 months ago but maybe you were dating more than one person (which is fine)

Haha! No, it's not Mr. Vegas (thank goodness).

Sadly, I worry because I had a situation in the past where I announced a relationship, an ex heard about it and called the guy I was dating and he told me it wasn't my place to say anything.

I was thinking it may be better for the guy to share that info? I haven't dated in forever. I have no idea!!

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by ZenZeta

Haha! No, it's not Mr. Vegas (thank goodness).

Sadly, I worry because I had a situation in the past where I announced a relationship, an ex heard about it and called the guy I was dating and he told me it wasn't my place to say anything.

I was thinking it may be better for the guy to share that info? I haven't dated in forever. I have no idea!!

It doesn’t matter. Unless it was discussed ahead of time that you two want to keep it private (sometimes some families are nosey or meddling so people want not to disclose for awhile) .

The guy who told you “it wasn’t your place” was full of it.