Rekindle an old friendship that ended because of betrayal??

Forgiveness is for the forgiver- if it helps you to learn to let something go then go for it. No one should ever feel like they have to or are supposed to forgive and forget. I also do not believe forgiveness equals forgetting. In fact I tend to look at it more as acceptance in order to move on, not forgiveness and letting the person off the hook.

The thing is - and I respect your opinion sarahsweets - I don't need to let someone off the hook to learn something. I don't know what you mean by acceptance. If someone I'm dating hits me (which has happened), why would I need to accept that behavior in order to move on? I don't accept physical abuse from a man. Him hitting me has taught me that some men will physically abuse me. Doesn't mean I have to accept it as the norm. Doesn't mean I have to forgive those men who've hit me, in order to move on. I'm trying to understand where you're coming from. Can you give me an example of what you mean for context sake?