[Gymgirl71]

I was like you MUST be joking! Told him not to come by to drop off my things and take care..he then proceeded to ask me to hang out with him after we cool off..

What happened to never wanting to see me again?? I seriously don’t get people!

[divine1966]

You can’t control him but you can control what you do. Particularly you can control communication. Why are you talking to him? It is just dragging it longer

[Gymgirl71]

Originally Posted by divine1966

You can’t control him but you can control what you do. Particularly you can control communication. Why are you talking to him? It is just dragging it longer

To tell him not to drop my things off

[divine1966]

Time to stop communication.

[Have Hope]

Well, that completely negates anything mean and cruel he ever said when you broke up AND everything else he tried to dump on you as a result. So, you must feel a bit better now. Good riddance to him. Definitely do not see him or continue to talk to him.

[sarahsweets]

I thought you blocked him so he couldnt communicate with you?

[TishaBuv]

After the two year on/off relationship with one of my addict bfs, we were dating, but he was sporadic and distant in his pursuit of me. As for the dates, I never had a guy come and sit on my couch and get drunk. They all took me out of my house, somewhere.

I went on a cruise with my mom, her friend and daughter. It was a last minute thing and I never told him I was going.

When I returned, he had been calling me and his whole attitude changed when I had now become more unavailable to him. It was then he steadily pursued me. We dated for a solid few months. Then he dumped me by standing me up for a date and never calling me again.

I hate the games. My gut tells me that he is probably more attracted to you now because you are ‘hard to get’.

I support you stepping back, looking at the whole big picture for yourself, and not falling into any traps.

[Gymgirl71]

Originally Posted by Have Hope

Well, that completely negates anything mean and cruel he ever said when you broke up AND everything else he tried to dump on you as a result. So, you must feel a bit better now. Good riddance to him. Definitely do not see him or continue to talk to him.

He can’t take back what was said

[Gymgirl71]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

After the two year on/off relationship with one of my addict bfs, we were dating, but he was sporadic and distant in his pursuit of me. As for the dates, I never had a guy come and sit on my couch and get drunk. They all took me out of my house, somewhere.

I went on a cruise with my mom, her friend and daughter. It was a last minute thing and I never told him I was going.

When I returned, he had been calling me and his whole attitude changed when I had now become more unavailable to him. It was then he steadily pursued me. We dated for a solid few months. Then he dumped me by standing me up for a date and never calling me again.

I hate the games. My gut tells me that he is probably more attracted to you now because you are ‘hard to get’.

I support you stepping back, looking at the whole big picture for yourself, and not falling into any traps.

No matter what I know he is incapable of a healthy relationship. His relationship is with alcohol..of course he likes the “hard to get” but once the novelty wears off his true colors show. No thanks!

[Have Hope]

Originally Posted by Gymgirl71

He can’t take back what was said

What I meant was obviously he didn’t really mean the cruel things he said because he asked you out again.

[Gymgirl71]

Originally Posted by Have Hope

What I meant was obviously he didn’t really mean the cruel things he said because he asked you out again.

Maybe not but it really bruised my self esteem

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm so sorry you're going through all of this, Gymgirl71! I agree with what all the other great, kind, supportive, wise, wonderful posters have already wisely said better than I ever could! You've been given lots of great, kind, supportive, wise and wonderful advice on this thread! Please try to NOT engage with him again! He has already hurt your feelings and his behavior is NOT appropriate at all! You seem to be already aware of that! Good for you! Be proud of yourself for that! Just try ignore him! Block him if he keeps bothering you or if he keeps insisting! You need to take care of yourself first after all! I'm so sorry you're going through all fo this! You don't deserve to suffer AT ALL! Nobody deserves to suffer AT ALL, certainly not such a caring, kind, generous and sweet person LIKE YOU ARE! Sending many hugs to you, Gymgirl71!

[Have Hope]

Originally Posted by Gymgirl71

Maybe not but it really bruised my self esteem

I can fully understand that. HUGS. Just do not engage with him any further. You are only harming yourself by doing so.... best to not even reply to him. He's clearly very mixed up.

The hardest part starts with returning each other's belongings. Decide if the things you left behind at his place are items you really need back, or are items that you can easily part with.