I'm Confused - Update!

Here is the link for my original post I'm Confused Even More!!! - Update!

So I did what i felt was the right thing to do. I deleted him from my FB page and got rid of his numbers.

Before I did, I sent him a text wishing him well and informed him I will no longer contact him again. I recieved no response from him.

From then, I moved on and got on with my life.

One week ago, a mutual friend advised I shouldn't have cut contact with my ex. Instead when he recieved my text, it broke his heart. He got very upset that I chose to cut contact. My friend advised my ex has been isolating and hasn't been making any contact with anyone. In fact, he hasn't been responding nor going out with any of his friends.

They strongly urged me to reconnect and try to make amends on being friends. How it was never about me and I shouldn't have taken his behaviour personally. He was going through his own demons and still is.

So I rang him on Sunday. I paused when he answered for about seven seconds. Then he hung up. I'm assuming his too upset to talk to me?

I do feel detached from the situation as I've slowly moved on from it.

Wanted your view on the issue?

I believe you have NO OBLIGATION TO TAKE RESPONSABILITY for what HE needs to do, toughbird! He needs to get professional help if he's struggling so badly! You certainly can't be expected to take care of him at your own expense and you can't "save him" all by yourself! I've quickly read your threads and from what I understand HE'S the one who told you he didn't want to be contacted again so I really don't see any reason at all why you should contact him back once again? I'd suggest to just DEFINITELY cut off contacts with him! You've alread rang him and he didn't reply to you! It seems like you already know whether he's truly interested in you or not! I DO believe that your friend was a bit unrespectful by getting upset at you for YOUR decision especially by telling you that "it was never about you!"! What does that mean? It IS about you as well! A relationship is made of two people after all! I'd suggest NOT to listen to him if I have to be honest with you! I hope things will get better soon for you! Please keep us updated on your situation and let us know how things are going for you, ok? WE ALL DO CARE ABOUT YOU! I PROMISE YOU ALL OF THAT BECAUSE IT IS TRUE! PLEASE REMEMBER ALL OF THAT AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN BECAUSE IT IS TRUE! Please keep us updated AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN IF YOU WANT TO, OK? WISH YOU GOOD LUCK! LET US KNOW HOW THINGS ARE GOING FOR YOU! SENDING MANY HUGS TO YOU, TOUGHBIRD!

My view is the same as before.

He isn’t interested in being romantic or friendly with you, same as before.

Him isolating and not going places doesn’t mean he is interested in talking with you. It’s his choice to not hang out. Who knows what he is doing. He might have new friends and cut ties with old crew or is busy with other stuff or just wants space.

Same as before I urge you to leave the guy alone. He isn’t responding to your texts and hangs up when you call because he let you know several times he isn’t interested, not because he is upset

Your other friend meddling for who knows what reason.

I recommend you talk to a therapist and try to break this pattern of pursuing this person before it becomes a serious issue. He told you to stop contacting him, to continue it could cause legal problems.

I agree. He told you with both words and actions that he is not interested. Your friend may say otherwise but you've already got the message personally and clearly from him.

It is unhealthy for you to keep pursuing him.

stand by your actions. if someone decides to isolate after then that is their choice. it appears he has made it obvious he wants no contact. give him that. "helping " friends ..pay no attention to them, they aren't really helping..they mean well but in this case the other person has made it clear what his intentions are.

thde thing is if you have cut contact, then cut contact. period. no strings, no phone calls every few weeks. be done. period. if that is truly what you want then stand by YOUR words and actions.