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My ex bf and I broke up I don’t know a month ago? It’s been hard to let go and stop blaming myself..even though I know it was nothing I did wrong, he just doesn’t know how to treat a person or the slightest clue how to have a healthy relationship..
Anyways with the exception of last summer I’ve never really been single in the summertime for quite a few years..so maybe this will be a new experience for me. I always thought I had to be attached in the summer or I wouldn’t be happy...just my codependent thinking |
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I’m glad you are doing well after that break up. Here’s to trying new things and having single adventures this summer!
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Believe and think: I can be happy single! And I can be happily single all through the summer!
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Some people can be pretty toxic in relationships. As you say, he doesn't know how to treat people properly - and you don't deserve that. Find things to busy your time with. Reading books / baking / going for walks / meditating ... whatever gets you by.
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I'm single for the first time pretty much ever and I very much recommend thinking of things YOU like to do that may have fallen by the wayside (especially if you're prone to codepenecy that can happen). In my case it's art and LOTS of listening to music. I also joined a few MeetUp groups to encourage me to get out and socialize. It's been good. I think if you spend your time "rediscovering" (or even re-inventing!) yourself, you will find it very satisfying. Also, I'd write down all the bad things about your previous relationship so you can recognize and hopefully not repeat getting yourself in that situation again. It's no fun not being treated well (understatement) and you DO deserve better!
Wishing you the very best.... __________________ ********* Mr. Robot Makes me sick to the heart, Oh I feel so tired. And the way the rain comes down hard, that's how I feel inside. --The Cure
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I too am recently going through a breakup of a toxic relationship that should have been done a long time ago. We have been done for about a month now and I am finally starting to heal and realize that I deserve so much better. When you are with someone for two years of your life, of course there are going to be times that you will miss them and that's okay. However, what's not okay is putting yourself back in a situation to be mistreated just because you are lonely. I have realized that although he had claimed to love me, he really couldn't have if he was willing to cheat on me time and time again and put himself in a position where he could lose me. If you truly love someone you wouldn't be able to do that. I am finally realizing my worth, and I can definitely say that it is his loss not mine.
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