[Stuck1nhead]

So I read this article;

Love is Not Enough for a Healthy Marriage

I thought I was a really good partner, but after reading this I’m really not that great. Sure I love her and she loves me. But is that enough? We are going through a rough patch on the wanting kids now vs later discussion. But despise having our differences in that I thought it was mostly her that was the issue. I now know I’m still very closed off and have issue communicating my feelings. If I was more open and would not bottle up my opinions. I would’ve avoided 90% of the issue in my marriage.

I thought she was the toxic one because she came from a very hectic family. But now I’m starting to realize what I bring to the table. FML

[MickeyCheeky]

Acknowledging our flaws is a sign of maturity so kudos to you! Now that you're aware of it, it is possible for you to start working on it, perhaps with the help of an experienced therapist if you're not seeing one already! Your marriage can still be saved! It's not over yet! Please be kind to yourself. Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you and your wife, @Stuck1nhead!

[Bill3]

I see that article as unhelpful and discouraging in that it has so many criteria. Who can honestly say that they meet 37 such criteria?

Of course no one is perfect. But I don’t think that you should give in to her, especially when she manipulates and attempts to deceive, on the grounds that you yourself are imperfect.

[divine1966]

All right now. We are all screwed. 37 points? I didn’t even read beyond first few. Pretty much only perfect people should marry. Yeah ok

[~Christina]

I think that link is outrageous and please do not take it as fact.

[Stuck1nhead]

While I realize that I’m far from perfect it did help me the narrow down the areas I need to work on. Which is communicating my feelings in a timely and appropriate manner

I actually think the article itself is good, yet no one meets all those needs, nor can it be done all the time. It does have good points on how to be more mentally healthy and available for a partner or even a family member. I can see how other people in my life could benefit from a quick read through once in a while, as well as myself. Thanks, hope you aren't too hard on yourself though.