[jaymoq]

My boyfriend makes a lot of “mistakes” that he calls accidents. He apologizes every time, says it was an accident, then does it again. An accident is unforseeable. It’s something that truly wasn’t intentional. There was no indication it would happen.

The one that bothers me the most of he pees on the bathroom floor. He misses the toilet. And not a few drops. Like- he pees everywhere. And then sometimes will wipe it up with a paper towel. But- ew. Not sanitary. Lately, the dogs been peeing the rug by the toilet and I couldn’t figure it out. We used to share a bathroom so when I stepped in it, I’d know. But now we have a new home and he has his own bathroom. I just happened to hear the dog in there, walked in, and the pee soaked paper towels were shredded all over the floor. When I asked what happened, he said he missed. I asked if that happened a lot and he said about once a month.

Guys- is this normal? Am I making a big deal out of this? It’s just- to me, unsanitary. And not an accident if it happens once a month. But I’m not a dude. Maybe this is totally normal. I can’t say I’ve ever experienced this before with a man.

And to clarify- this is not medically explainable. Not like he has any condition. There’s nothing physically exacerbating the urine scenario.

I can't imagine it is that hard to stand & point. or better yet if there is an "aim" issue to sit. really. seems to me he just doesn't give a dam . don't clean it. he makes the mess, let him live with it.

[Calypso2632]

does he drink? does he not bother to turn the light on in the dark cause he thinks his aim is that good? there are a lot of variables, but missing the toilet and not cleaning up after ones self is just plain laziness. and like you said, unsanitary. maybe he thinks his bathroom, he wont have to hear you complain about stepping in it anymore and on with the gross mess. my ex partner, now roommate is a daily drinker, in the dark pee-er, there is a small night light in there, but if he notices a mistake its cleaned immediately, even the porcelain under the ring gets a wipe between full cleanings. maybe a full on talk is necessary?

[Mbluish]

Some men are just bad at aiming. My uncle used to come over and he would do the same and not clean it. Yuck. It is SO much more sanitary to sit down. Some men think they are lesser if they do this but my husband sits and pees and he is more man than any man I know. If he won’t sit, make him clean it and keep the bathroom door shut.

Nope, I lived with brother and dad and ONE bathroom - plus a roommate. (usually romantic people were on their best behavior) They suck at aim. Sometimes when a handyman comes over I give them the look when they ask to use the bathroom, like you better not miss.

[partyofone]

Even if there's no medical issue and even if a person just has poor aim, there's no medical issue involved in cleaning things up, is there?
Also, some men do always choose to pee sitting down.

[divine1966]

Is he a drunk? I am married second time and had relationships with men between my marriages and I have a brother and father and two nephews. No one ever peed anywhere but in the toilet. Your dude does it either drunk or high or on purpose to piss you off. Personally I’d not live like this. But it’s just me

If you miss you clean it up. The fact that he doesn't is a red flag to me.

Originally Posted by the walls

If you miss you clean it up. The fact that he doesn't is a red flag to me.

I believe all men have vision problems or perhaps clean up problems when it comes to this.

[~Christina]

Ummm No ! I would not tolerate this at all. I’d have a sit down talk about this and be very clear whether it’s “his” bathroom or not , now the dogs are marking ??? NOPE !

Personally I’d leave a bottle of cleaner and paper towels on the back of the commode and tell him to clean it daily, and better yet SIT down.

I’d be queen B over this, so nasty , I’m sorry you are dealing with it

[Jester's Rags]

Not cleaning up is nasty. I usually sit anyway but;
Things that could explain why he's missing:
Split Stream
Morning Wood