[JupiterBraytech]

So I found out my dad had attempted to call my therapist when my mom told me. Even though I made it CLEAR I would not allow him to do so. Thank God the office was closed. So today I called to confront him about him. We launched into a huge argument when he told me he wanted to call to "check up on me" which basically means he wanted my therapist to tell him everything because it was his "parental right". But I'm not a danger to myself or others so he had NO right! All I got was a "whatever" so i plan on feeding it to him with more force next time. I no longer respect him or any of my parents. Who gives a crap about relationships anymore? I was so pissed off I started yelling, and I rarely yell. I felt absolute, complete RAGE that could burn down this rock of a planet. I don't respect any adults at all without them earning it now. And I have HIGH expectations.

[bpcyclist]

I am sorry you had to deal with this situation, @JupiterBraytech. Very difficult. But let me strongly recommend that you not burn anything down. That would be bad and it would not solve the issues with your dad. Tons of legal consequences. Either way, when things are calmer, you are probably going to need to sit down and calmly discuss expectations around your parents' access to your therapist. Not sure where you live and what specific laws apply there, vis a vis your age and consent. You should definitely find out what those are, if you do not already know. If the law says your folks have no access without you signing a release, then problem solved. Don't sign a release. If, on the other hand, the law suggests they do have some level of access to your therapist, then you guys are going to have to negotiate that one out. What exactly is your dad looking for? Would you be comfortable with your therapist giving him a broad, general overview, without divulging details? Or, do you just want him to have zero information at all? You should think about all this before you meet.

Once you've decided what your position is, sit down and tell them. If you have the law behind you, it really doesn't matter what they want. Though, again, they are your parents and you might want to sort of keep them in the loop. 'Cuz they're your parents. These are all just my random thoughts. I'm sure you'll do the right thing. Best of luck to you!!

[Bill3]

Be sure to discuss the situation with your therapist so that you and she/he are on the same page as to how to handle things if a parent calls again. I am hoping and betting that your therapist has been through this before and will be on your side!