[unfoldingxwings]

I guess because it's National Coming Out Day this popped into my mind. My mother doesn't approve of me having same sex relationships. She's been very mean and abusive to me when I've been in them. Then again, she's hated every guy I've dated too. I'm pansexual, I date all genders.

I'm at the point where I just don't really date anymore. Besides having a hard time believing anyone would be interested in me/find me attractive, I also fear having to bring someone home. Especially since I'm living with my parents again. It causes me so much anxiety. For anyone I date to meet my parents, especially my mom who is never nice, warm or welcoming to anyone who likes me. It's almost as if she hates it or is jealous when someone likes me.

I'm 33, single, never been married. I'd love to have a relationship. But I'm also terrified. I've been with a few people online since last year but I've kept them secret from my family because I don't like dealing with the verbal abuse. They were both same-sex. I'm not really sure what to do. Is anyone else dealing with this too, or has some advice?

[Iloivar]

I think keeping your relationships secret from your mother is justified given how she treats you and your partners. Meeting someone that would be fine with that, or would want to meet your parents even when you inform them what you're getting into, is fine too.

[sarahsweets]

I think the only way you will find peace is to be honest with yourself and who you are.

[bpcyclist]

Just be who you are.