Ways you have intentionally made a positive gesture?

shakespeare47 · Oct 15, 2019, 06:17 AM

I just read this article: Want a Happier, More Fulfilling Life? 75-Year Harvard Study Says Focus on This 1 Thing

After a 75 year Harvard study, they determined that the one thing that the happiest people have in common is that they concentrate on relationships.

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The clearest message that we get from this 75-year study is this: Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Period.

The article goes on to explain that it's not just having a lot of relationships that is beneficial.... the benefit comes from "creating micro-experiences that cause an emotional uplifting in others."

Here are some examples:

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#1: “I just want you to know how much I appreciate you.”

John’s wife Sarah welled up with tears as she read the unexpected thank you note her husband had written her before he left on a 6:00am flight for a business trip.
John — the CEO of an aggressively growing startup — thanked his wife for all the support and grace she’d given him over the last three years as he worked long hours to reach his — and his company’s — fullest potential.
The short note left Sarah feeling appreciated, loved, and truly known by her husband.
#2: “Thank you for sacrificing your time for our vision.”

Hannah, a recent intern-turned-engineer at a public company, felt pleasantly surprised and greatly affirmed after Erin, the CEO, walked over to her cubicle specifically to say thank you.
Without prompting, Hannah had recently pulled an all-nighter in order to ensure a backend patch was completed on time to restore server stability. And even though Erin’s visit was shorter than 30 seconds, the fact that the interaction was focused solely on thanking Hannah left her feeling appreciated for stepping up and excited to work for the company.
#3: “So you never have to lose something again.”

Cole — a die-hard Atlanta Falcons fan — laughed in amusement as he wrote back “Thanks, but I hate you lol

” to Rob, a friend who had sent him a Tile following the Falcon’s 2017 Super Bowl loss so he’d, “never have to lose something important again.”
The practical joke made Cole smile and deepened the sense of connection and friendly rivalry the two of them shared.

What have you done to create a positive experience for someone else?

Oct 15, 2019, 08:00 AM

I like highlighting people's strengths, in addition to comforting them. I like people to know that they are appreciated and belonged.

LilyMop · Oct 15, 2019, 10:15 AM

I try to thank people as much as possible. I try to offer kind words of encouragement to someone every day.

WishfulThinker66 · Oct 15, 2019, 11:27 AM

I try to do random acts of kindness every day - from happy little notes in my husband's lunch to letting strangers ahead of me in line.

Hummingbirdlvr · Oct 16, 2019, 09:36 AM

I like to make my man feel special every chance I get so he knows how much I love him and respect him. Respect is important in a relationship for both but men appreciate it more I believe.

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