[tameimp]

Hello all, me and my fiance had another little bout where she does something I don't like and instead of being angry towards her I choose to remain silent until I feel like I can approach her calmy, which may take a long time sometimes. She is not a drinker, in fact it makes her really sick. Today she, unknown to me at the time, decided to chug half a bottle of high alcohol whiskey that she recently purchased for me. I'm not sure why she did that, she knows how sick she gets. I only noticed when she mentioned she was going for a walk and started to break down emotionally and started telling me all the things she hates about me. I immediately smelled strong alcohol in her breath and knew she was not in a good condition to go anywhere. I tried to get her to calm down and lie down instead, but she wasn't having any of it. She comes back from her walk about an hour later, she couldnt even open to door because she couldnt get the keys in the keyhole. She threw up at the bottom of the stairs and was making a loud scene. She claimed many things that werent true and tried to make it seem like I was hurting her when she was in fact hitting me and attempting to hurt me. I have never seen her like this before but we have had big arguments many times before. Currently she is cycling between being passed out and vomiting. While she was causing a scene, she mentioned many times about how I don't make her happy and how she can't keep staying with me like this. She also mentioned a few times that she would rather be dead and that she wishes she could kill herself. She has made threats like this before but has never acted on it, and I don't believe she will. what do i do?

[divine1966]

I’d call 911

[~Christina]

Call 911 she likely has alcohol poisoning

[Molinit]

911 and the problem is out of your hands.

[ZenStream]

Call 911 and

Possible trigger:

record her antics for her to watch later.

[Bill3]

Yes 911 if she is threatening imminent suicide.

But also stop giving here the silent treatment when she does something you don’t like.

If it takes “a long time” for you to become calm, then learning better anger management techniques would be well worth doing.

[Open Eyes]

Don't marry this person. You are not supposed to fix HER, she needs help to fix herself. You should consider seeing a therapist so you can understand why you chose a clearly needy person like this and also find out where your own anger is coming from.

Also, your fiance needs therapy so she can get to the bottom of why she is struggling so much.

[luvyrself]

[QUOTE=Bill3;6699249]Yes 911 if she is threatening imminent suicide.

But also stop giving here the silent treatment when she does something you don’t like.

If it takes “a long time” for you to become calm, then learning better anger management techniques would be well worth doing.
`````Its good that you dont speak in anger, but the silent treatment and not dealing with serious relationship problems can be passive aggressive. Silent but deadly, as the saying goes, and she could have easily had an accident or been mugged being that drunk. Has she said why she cant keep living with you?