[Nocalove]

The last time I posted on this forum, I did not get even one reply. So, here goes another attempt.

I was driving a 2007 Chevy HHR. I have poor credit and it was financed. I was making $350 monthly payments and it would not be paid off until 2021. Well, I was having some issues with it. I took it in to where I got it, and they determined it needed a new engine and other work. I inquired about trading it in, but they said no. So, I agreed to put $500 down on the engine, and pay $75 extra monthly for the service fees. That would have made my car payment $425.

Well, my roommate ( aka romantic partner ) is trying to trade his car in. He has a 2012 Chevy Cruz, and it is having problems. The body is all banged up and the oil is going back into the transmission. So, we go to where he got the car from. He applies for credit and on a whim, I decided to apply. Well, he got denied and I got approved. I rolled off the lot in a 2019 Chevy Cruz.

My life has been hell ever since. He is very angry that I got a car and he didn't. This is a toxic relationship anyways, and with his anger, it just makes it worse. It blew up yesterday while we were at the store. He got out the car screaming and yelling and throwing things. I can't handle this much longer.

I am still in shock they approved me. I didn't want or need a brand new car. I just wanted to get a newer car and got out of the horrible financial mess I was in.

Not sure if this will get any replies, but it feels better to get it out.

Thanks for reading.

Well, my roommate ( aka romantic partner ) is trying to trade his car in. He has a 2012 Chevy Cruz, and it is having problems. The body is all banged up and the oil is going back into the transmission. So, we go to where he got the car from. He applies for credit and on a whim, I decided to apply. Well, he got denied and I got approved. I rolled off the lot in a 2019 Chevy Cruz.

My life has been hell ever since. He is very angry that I got a car and he didn't. This is a toxic relationship anyways, and with his anger, it just makes it worse. It blew up yesterday while we were at the store. He got out the car screaming and yelling and throwing things. I can't handle this much longer.

I am still in shock they approved me. I didn't want or need a brand new car. I just wanted to get a newer car and got out of the horrible financial mess I was in.

It sounds like your boyfriend is trying to blame YOU for his poor credit problems. You didn't deny his credit application, so he is entirely wrong to take his anger out on you. He's projecting all of his disappointment, anger, and frustration with being denied a car loan, on to you, because you are the closest target.

Have you ever addressed his anger problems with him before? Is he willing to work on his poor communication skills with you in an effort to be a better boyfriend and save the relationship? If he isn't willing to address his own issues, then he isn't someone you should continue to waste your time with, and you need to find a way to get away from him despite the two of you living together.

Congrats on the 2019 Chevy Cruz!! Sounds like your previous car was a real lemon --- not unlike your boyfriend now is....

You were able to fix your own financial mess because you took the steps to do it, I imagine, by making those car payments on time. That is why you improved your credit and was approved for that car loan. Your boyfriend is extremely selfish to take his anger at himself, out on you. You had nothing to do with his poor credit situation. He created it all by himself. He's 100% wrong to blame you and throw a tantrum the way he did while you were at the store. What an immature jack ***.

[Imokay2]

He sounds like a big baby

[~Christina]

Well I probably would have said “ calm down and get in the car and go home or whatever ... if he continued to be a idiot I would have left him there.

It’s not your fault he has poor credit. He needs to grow up and fix the mess he caused

[divine1966]

Your boyfriend sounds awful. I’d ditch him and get an actual roommate if you need one. He yelled and screamed at the store? I’d drive away. He is a grown man and can find way home.

By the way I checked and all your threads have responses. Not sure which thread you mean

[bpcyclist]

Your BF needs to go to Target and buy a mirror and look at it. A lot.

[Bill3]

This is a toxic relationship anyways

Why are you still with him?

What will it take for you to leave/kick him out?

[Open Eyes]

What happened to that car you wanted to trade in and put that $500 down on fixing the engine? You were making payments on that vehicle, so how did you get rid of that mess?