[InACorner]

my stupid mother is a nutcase...i know that ...we all know that...but sometimes she is just too much....every freaking day she talks about weight and says who is fat and who is skinny (i am fat..my 9 yr. old sis is fat) So you know what...we are going to church tonight....i decide i want to wear nice dress slacks...not pants...they are black striped (almost pin striped to give you an idea, but all black) with a nice red sweat and gold jewlery...my dad thought it was nice...no big deal but my mother flipped because i wasnt wearing a skirt...i am 20 yrs old and decided to trump her about MY clothes....then she goes to her bathroom and flips because there is an empty toliet paper roll on the holder....and instantly...like breathing of course.....she says we dont do that here (my name) we clean up after ourselves.....WHAT????? When did i do that? I got home at 5 and went to my room...i didnt even go to the bathroom....i only go once a day unless my IBS acts up....i do use the bathroom so it looks bad for me...but it could have been my sister (who denied it) whatever..i dont know ...i do know i didnt do it...and i am ready to strangle her and beat my head against the wall......If i could i would seriously try to get her in a mental health facility...unfortunatly she is real good at pretending to be normal...other than looking anorexic.

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[_Hope_]

I am so sorry, I have a mother that behaves similarly. I wish you didn't have to live like that. There is no changing her. The only thing that helped me was avoiding her altogether. If that is not an option, try to keep telling yourself what you know is right so her insanity does not rub off on you. Good luck, sending good thoughts your way.

Linda

Inny, I'm so sorry you have such a difficult time with your mother. My husband's mother is the same. The best thing is to totally not respond to any negative comment she makes. Keep on talking as if she hasn't said anything.

Or, if all else fails . . .
Can you pretend to have hearing loss when she says these things? Like, when she says that you are FAT, can you say, "Oh, mother, my CAT is just fine. I have someone watching him at home. My sister doesn't even own a Cat, really?"
If she repeats, just say, "Oh, mother, my tires on my car are not FLAT. Can we move on to another subject?"

Tell her that you think dress slacks are more ladylike than skirts. What if some peeping Tom is sitting under the pew? Who would be in the better position, someone wearing a skirt or someone wearing slacks? Then say, mother you can be so irrational at times.

About the empty toilet paper roll? Weren't you saving those because your abovementioned CAT likes to play with them? And to the "here we clean up after ourselves." A good, "Well, THERE we don't clean up after ourselves, so please allow me some time to adjust."

Inny, don't actually try these suggestions, I was just trying to cheer you up! Hold on! You can make it! I know you can

[nothemama8]

Inny is there anyway you can get your own place , even a rooming house for awhile, also remember this is not a put down, try to put up with her she won't be here forever and you will truely miss her when she's gone
Angie

[Perna]

My husband and I have had the toilet paper roll discussion (he leaves it empty) and you might point out to your Mom that there is NO DIFFERENCE in whether you change it for the "next" person (who could be you!) or get it and put it on the roll when you need it next. At some point everyone is going to have similar odds of being last/first.

She's "crazy" - you know that, don't let it hurt you anymore than you have to. I had to go to the bathroom after dinner once when it was my turn to do the dishes and my stepmother swore I was trying to get out of doing the dishes! She angrily did them and held it over my head. Excuse me, but I can't stay in the bathroom all night? A minute or two tops? The dishes can't wait?

I'm so sorry Inny that you have to go through all that. One suggestion, don't EVER not buy her a Christmas present; I did that once when I was in college, the present I found I went to pick up and it wasn't what I thought and wasn't appropriate and I didn't have time to find another. I still cry about that Christmas day and her, "Nothing!" in tragic tones.

[selfy]

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((INNY)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
your not alone, everyones moms seems to be pissing them off lately.
take care hon. u deserve to be happy
AND YOUR NOT FAT lol
neither is your sister. how can u be fat at 9?
dot

[AAAAA]

InACorner,

Wow, talk about over reacting! Sounds like someone else in the house needs some meds! I'm a yeller, and I've been known to over-react from time, but MAN!!! Either something else is bothering her or you're right, she's a case! In either event, I'm so sorry that is how you spent your holidays! I hope that you found some pleasure in spending time with your sister!