[Lostingrief]

Hi everyone,

I need advice and honest opinions on my situation. My ex boyfriend and I were together for six months in a long distance relationship. His mother died in late November and he stopped responding to my texts for a few days. The only way I even knew she died was because his sister posted about it. When he responded he just said he needed space and time and I said I would give that to him. Two weeks later he posted some normal videos of himself so I reached out to him to talk. We had a short conversation and then he didn't reply for a few days. When he finally did, he broke up with me because he said he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now after his mom. He said I deserved happiness and he doesn't think that it's with him.

Right after i deleted him and his sister from social media to sort out my own feelings. I texted his sister to ask her to take care of him and send love to her family. The next morning he texted me all angry to ask why I did that. He ended up apologizing and saying that it's not that he doesnt love me or want me in his life he just doesn't want a girlfriend right now. I told him I needed time to sort out my feelings and he said okay.

We've texted on and off a few times since. Now he's ignored my last messages to him for about a week. I want him in my life and understand that he's grieving but don't want to let go of the hope that we'll get back together. I miss him so much

[divine1966]

I am sorry you are hurting but you have to let him go. If he doesn’t want relationships right now then you can’t and shouldn’t pressure him. If you only dated 6 months long distance (have you met him in person?) I’d say it’s not the kind of situation where you need to keep contacting his family or expect communication from him. I recommend moving on. Are you seeing a therapist? I think it would be helpful for you to help you process this

I agree with divine1966 that you need to move on from this breakup. This will sound silly, but this Psych Central article on breakups offers an exercise to do, to help reign in one's emotions after a breakup. Surviving Your Breakup

[Bill3]