What’s your thoughts on Sibling Rivalry?

Hi you guys first off thanks for taking the time to read

To give you a bit of back story .. there are 3 of us (all girls) & we all have different fathers. The sister I am referring to is the middle child. When we were younger she has always been the problem child anywhere from stealing, fighting, sex, drugs you name it. I don't remember much but I always felt like she never liked me you know the vibes.. my family said it was because once I was born she wasn’t the baby anymore and she hated it but I always felt it was because my dad ended up marrying my mother for 23 years instead of her father. She’s the type of person you have to walk on egg shells or watch what you do because she’ll manifest a problem. Fast forward she ends up having 3 kids. so me being me any time she needs a sitter I’m there! I look at my nephews & niece as my own. Never asked for money or anything because they are my family.

Fast forward the situation. (So you’ll understand) I watched the kids Tuesday & Wednesday night. Come Thursday morning she wanted to know if I could watch them again & if not she would ask another relative. so I said yes but plans came up with my boyfriend so I cancelled on her within a reasonable amount of time (6hours to be exact) thinking she would have asked the other relative. I guess that didn’t work out so she came to MY home (I still live with my parents) maybe an hour before she had to be to work I was in the car getting ready to leave with my boyfriend and I seen she was coming to the car but she then turned around so I walked in my home to see what was going on. She attempted to drop the kids off with my mother KNOWINGLY that our mother is sickly & can’t really tend to them as she should. She starts slandering me because the ONE TIME I canceled on her. She hits me & we start fighting.

Now the fight itself would have been okay but she crossed the line when & fled from my home the entire time my niece was there watching her mother be irate. I want her to face the consequences behind her actions so currently there is a warrant out.

I’d like to know you guys thought on the situation some people have told me “they wouldn’t have pressed charges” or “pressing charges wasn’t necessary” regardless I’m going through with it but I’d do like someone to go over it with a fresh pair of eyes (in a sense lol)

Did you call the police?

What are the charges?

She is extremely dangerous in my opinion. Who is going to look after the children when she is locked up? The state?

I am so sorry you are dealing with this. How frightening!!

I’d assume if you pressed charges you did call the police and the charge would be assault with a deadly weapon. These are serious charges.

She’s out of control. Why is she dumping her kids on others constantly? I’m concerned for them. If they are taken away from her, where will her kids be placed? This is a very bad situation for all of you, and I am sorry you are experiencing it.

You asked about sibling rivalry. There’s a saying about how the middle child has these insecure feelings and sometimes has more difficulties than the oldest and youngest, for just the reasons you said. Also, your mother marrying your father would definitely be upsetting and cause resentment to her, IMHO. Children can’t help but feel something there when that happens, but maybe sometimes it’s okay for them, not in your sister’s case.

She is dangerous to you, her children, herself, and the rest of the family. She needs help, but what can you do? I’d have reported it to the police, too, since she cut you with a weapon. That’s serious assault and could escalate.

You did the right thing reporting her. Someone who can exibit this kind of behavior may be abusing the children and may even be a danger to her own children.

My dad called he was directly in the middle trying to get her away

Aggravated Assault & more than likely our mother or another relative. They didn't tell me much but if it was her first offense she’d do 30days