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#1
Feb 21, 2020, 02:42 PM
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Now that I'm 49, it has become painfully obvious via online dating that I'm now a "Creepy Old White Guy" and as such are to be hated by all women.
OK, fair enough. I can't reverse my age and I can't change my skin colour, so I guess the best thing to do is to learn how to ignore "those" biological urges and live my life alone. Any tips on doing that? Any good drugs on the market that can medicate away my emotions? |
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Feb 21, 2020, 04:27 PM
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Feb 21, 2020, 04:52 PM
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Being white and 49 doesn’t make one creepy, I’ve met my husband online, he was actually 49 at the time and white. Wasn’t creepy. Prior meeting him I met other men in similar categories, weren’t creepy.
Did women explain to you why they consider you creepy? |
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Feb 21, 2020, 05:34 PM
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I'd ask them why they're saying what they are.
And remember not all women do online dating, so it's not 'every' woman who's telling you that. Maybe you're someone who's better appreciated in person. Possible?
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Life is like playing a violin in public and learning the instrument as one goes on. --Samuel Butler |
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Feb 22, 2020, 09:56 AM
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Feb 22, 2020, 10:00 AM
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I doubt that all women find you creepy. For one thing, we haven't all met you and not all of us are into online dating. Maybe examine what you are saying to these women. Do you start off talking about sex right away? Are you only targeting women much younger than you are? Do you read their profiles before messaging them or do you go on looks alone? Do you have a detailed profile about yourself? I know when I was doing online dating, I would find it creepy when someone messaged me and hadn't even bothered to fill out his own profile. I want to know something about a person, not just see a photo.
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#7
Feb 22, 2020, 02:32 PM
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What age do you seek when dating women online? This could contribute to creep levels for some young women who may believe you are preying on them. However, there are many young women who are comfortable with datin older men (irrespective of race), and it’s just about approaching those who seem to accept you as you are.
Medicating away emotions? Sounds like a recipe for disaster, especially because I’m sure you want to enjoy your mature years. Everyone deserves to feel loved no matter their stage in life. You shouldn’t ignore your need for affection and intimacy. Just make sure you approach women who will love you as you are, and don’t consider your needs or expectations as creepy. |
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Feb 22, 2020, 04:58 PM
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I am also quite interested in what you are exactly posting on these sites. What sorts of exchanges do you typically have with these women?
There are tons and tons of women interested in dating men in their late 40s/50s. Tons. Plenty of them, in their thirties or even younger, if, for some reason, that is a goal of yours. But not if you come on like a bulldozer... So, what about those exchanges?
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Feb 24, 2020, 05:07 PM
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Perhaps the sites you are visiting, and your expectations are mns-matched. If you are looking for some way to fulfill 'these urges', perhaps a dating site where women may be looking for a more long term intellectual and emotional exchange is not the place.
There maybe sites more in line with your expectations, or perhaps you could explore more thoroughly what it is you are looking for. Was there something in particular you were hoping for through using these sites, who were you hoping to attract? Maybe by focusing your interests and wants you will have more luck finding someonecompatable. Wishing you the very best. |
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