[1imaan1]

Hello!
About 2 months ago, i joined an islamic forum. To be precise, i am a muslim. There I asked for an advice and a man replied. Although other gave advice as well, but i liked his reply so much. He appeared very polite. Then i began to read his other posts and realized he is really a very pious, kimd person. So from then, i am having affection towards him. I deleted the app so i don't come across him, but all in vain. I just downloaded it again after some time. I am just not able to get over it. There isn't any relationship and all in islam,and I don't even want it. I just want him in a right way, according to islam, through marriage. I am very religious and he as well is same. That's why i want him. I have been so anxious since then. At first, i started praying to get him as a spouse but then i stopped thinking God will give me whatever is best for me. Nowadays, i am finding it very hard to concentrate on anything.
Another issue, is he is 24 and i am 16. And he is very much desperate for marriage. And i think that it will take a long time for me to get at that age, he would have married till then. I am losing hope. I am so much stressed. Please help me.

[MsLady]

I am not Muslim so perhaps there's a cultural barrier between us. My question to you, though.. what would bring you to consider marriage at 16 years if age? You have a brief snapshot of how this stranger behaves online. You only (barely) know his online personality and not his true self in the real world. He, too, is young yet desperate to be married. I'm sorry if this is common in your culture, as it is not in mine, for 2020.

Where are your parents? Do you have an attachment towards them? Do you have any siblings? You're 16 years old interacting with strangers online. That's a high risk. You sound vulnerable to me.

If I were you, I'd remove myself from this group and chalk it up to teenage fantasy that's not meant to be acted on. Let him go by keeping yourself busy with events happening in real life .. with family and friends who love you.

I suspect you've come here because your current life is less than ideal?

[Skeezyks]

Hello 1imaan1: I'm sorry I don't think there is any advice I could offer with regard to your concern. However I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So I wanted to at least welcome you to Psych Central.

One additional forum, here on PC, that may be of interest to you would be the Coping with Emotions forum. Here's a link:

https://psychcentralforums.com/coping-with-emotions/

And then since you're a teen here's a link to an article, from Psych Central's archives, that offers tips for coping with emotions as a teen:

Techniques for Teens: How to Cope with Your Emotions

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

[Travelinglady]

Hello and welcome to Psych Central! I can understand why you'd respond to such a loving and caring man. But, as you say, he is too old for you and you don't even think he likes you. Do you think God would approve of such a relationship?

Instead, I suggest you ask God to help you find a young, loving man closer to your age. And seek out loving and caring women for right now, who can give you what you seek.

I am going to recommend that your post be put in the Relationships Forum, so you can get more responses.

Again, welcome. We're glad you're here.

[Rive.]

16 is far too young to even contemplate marriage, let alone to a man posting online and a man you don't even know.

One's online persona may not be an accurate reflection of who one is in real-life.

I would say forget this man and delete this app.

You are a teenager with a whole lot of life ahead of you. Marriage will come in time. I would focus instead on your studies, on finding yourself, discovering yourself and maybe exploring what is missing / unsatisfactory in your life that you have this rush to get married... at 16!