[hobbypoet]

I'm 34 and never been married. I've been single since 2014. I'm at the point where I'm not even sure how to date anymore. But also not sure it matters, because no one is ever interested in dating me anyways. No one flirts with me. I usually feel really invisible and undesirable.

My psych doctor said at one of my recent appointments, that I'm attractive, hard working, intelligent, and a good person...and didn't understand why I'm still single. That I've never mentioned a love interest to him. I had no idea how to answer that, because well...no one is ever interested in me. I was really surprised he even said any of that. Most of my focus is just on surviving how hard life is, healing and trying to improve on myself.

I'm thinking there's more to life than being with someone. I write a lot. A lot of poetry, I'm an artist. I find meaning and purpose through my creativity. So if I have nothing else, at least I'm an inspired, creative person that plans on publishing again someday. I make a lot of beautiful things to keep me busy. Part of me really, really deeply yearns for a romantic, loving connection with another person...but I'm getting old. I don't know if I'll ever find it. It's been a long time and never happened. A lot of times I tell people I've just given up hope on that. I do my best to live a happy, content life as a single person.

[Aviza]

I think you just need to put yourself out there. Maybe your the unapproachable type. Make yourself approachable. Smile, be friendly. Talk to people.