a really nice online friend ended his friendship with me today

apparently, he is feeling really angry that I can't/ won't be his girlfriend and thinks that just remaining friends isn't good enough for him

fair enough, I guess- but he sure kept that hidden for the 5/6 months we'd been talking

I liked him too. nice guy. (almost as good as bethany)

but I would have never been his GF anyway: the main reason being that I want to stay single.

I just feel angry and hurt that he chose today to tell me that our friendship isn't worth it if that's all it is

sorry - how do you know he is angry? did he tell you that? sometimes we say one thing but we don't actually mean it - how do you know he ended the relationship? maybe he just needs a break from the relationship or time alone

[Bill3]

I'm really sorry this happened, raging vortex.

[RoxanneToto]

I’m so sorry he dropped you as a friend. It does seem unfair that he can’t value your friendship for its own sake - that seems kind of entitled on his part. Even if you did want a boyfriend, someone who complains about being in the “friend zone” isn’t a good bet as a potential partner.

[guy1111]

Ouch. Sounds like a lose lose. I'm sorry. I suppose it just took him that long to muster the courage to tell you his true feelings. Hopefully he learns to be more expediant and direct with future potential partners.

Was there a part of you that suspected his intentions but was afraid to confront him?

[herbal tea]

I think the problem is because he saw your communication as a possible start to a relationship, and you thought it was just a friendship.
I understand that you are angry with him, but most likely it was not a friendship. I believe that there can be no friendship between people where one has sympathy for another. And it also shows experience.
The question is why he did not admit earlier that he has feelings for you.
You should accept the situation. It probably hurts him that you refused him, so he does not want to continue communication. I understand him, I would do the same.

[DoroMona]

I'm sorry you lost your friend. Those friendships where one person wants more than the other are really difficult to manage and balance, long term. If he didn't end the friendship, his feelings for you probably just would have become stronger and more painful. Sometimes it's better the friendship end than turn into a relationship where the "unsatisfied" partner just gets angrier and more resentful.

[seesaw]

I'm really sorry, Raging Vortex. But good for you for maintaining your boundaries.

[Prycejosh1987]

There is no such things as opposite sex friends. I have heard that many times in my life, and its true. When a man becomes a women's friend, its usually either for sex, or what i call a 'trial' relationship. This is a reason why people are cheating on each other;. You have to ask yourself what is it worth. Do what you think is best.