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Legendary Wise Elder
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#721
Omg I’d not give him a penny. What a cheap skate
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Wise Elder
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#722
It's easier on me to just give him money for the TVs, the A/C unit he bought and for other things. I don't even care. As long as he's out of my life.
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#723
Good point
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#724
Yeah. I mean, he's now dropping off his key today after work. So that means we are done with each other and with communicating about anything anymore. All the rest can be done through our lawyers
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#725
Great. It’s for the best
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#726
Yes, it truly is! Now I just hope he doesn't try to pull any more crap on me such as pleading and texting at random. I need a fresh start with my new job... and no drama.
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#727
Awesome. Just awesome. I am a complete emotional wreck today because of my a-hole husband fighting with me all morning, and I have a call this afternoon with my new boss in a half hour. I've been crying all morning and am still in tears. I am resentful right now that i have to speak with my boss on a day when I haven't even started working yet. I am a mess.
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#728
You can do it. Try to think of a positive here
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#729
Thanks, Divine.
OMG - I almost had a panic attack just before my call. I managed to get through the call OK (I think). I expressed my enthusiasm and excitement and a few thoughts on starting out next week. Phew - thank God that's done. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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#730
Glad to hear the call went well, in spite of everything. You’ve got this!
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Wise Elder
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#732
I told him there is no reason for us to be in touch except for through lawyers from now on.
His response? WOW. What does he think? I want to be friends with him now? After he's been such a crap husband, an abusive husband and what not? __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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#733
Even if he wasn’t abusive, there is nothing to talk to him about
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#734
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#735
You know what @HaveHope its totally sucky that he is this way after all of his nonsense. But please try really hard to focus on work when you start your job. I know you know this but a good way I am working on to control my obssessive worry about my daughter is to like schedule time to completely let myself just go "there" and worry, cry, rant, be angry all of it. But I also give myself a stop time. So I might tell myself from 6am-7 I can freak out about whatever is going on but by 730 I have to get up and dressed and do something I am supposed to do. It doesnt always work but it has sometimes.
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#737
So, I am freaking pissed off right now. I received the divorce agreement that my husband's lawyer drafted. It reads like my husband is the one filing for divorce, not me, even though we're supposed to be filing jointly and in mutual agreement. I am talking to my lawyer on Monday to get that revised to read differently. No way is my husband going to be the one filing for divorce, when I am the one who initiated it! When I confronted him, he lied about it and said he had no idea, when I know full well that he knew.
You may think this is a silly point to argue over, but it very much matters to me how the agreement reads. I don't want my husband then telling everyone that HE filed for divorce, which is how it looks now! F him. I am seething. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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#738
The thing is that no one will ever see the divorce decree so he can tell people that he filed anyways. He will likely say it anyways, regardless what the paper says. He likely saying it now. He says he left you.
You have no control over what he will tell people plus everyone knows that who filed does not matter. It’s not always who initiated the divorce at all. It’s just legal language. Of course his lawyer says he is filing for divorce. His lawyer wouldn’t say you are filing because he isn’t representing you. I never heard of jointly filing but maybe it’s being done when people get along. You two don’t see eye to eye (otherwise you’d be still married!) so doing things jointly will not work. |
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#739
Don’t pay for the items you keeping. He can put it in divorce agreement if he wants. What a joke. Items depreciate so bad they cost nothing now. People buy new TVs and other electronics every few years. Why is he charging you for it? I can buy you tv and coffee maker. Tell me where to send it. You don’t need to pay him at all. What a jerk
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