Dating again!

Hmm, we- the soccer player and I, did not talk for a few days and he just texted me wanting to see me again. I said ok. So, we will meet again! Someone told me to tell him that I don't want to listen about his ex-wife. Hmmm, I will just nod and listen but not say anything. I am not sure he will bring it up again anyways. It is nice he wants to see me again! I am in a way happy. I'm not perfect either but hope we get along and do well. Thank you all for your comments!!

One topic that usually gives lots of information is how the person talks about his or her exes but if I would understood well from what you wrote, he practically monopolised the conversation talking about how he is still in love with his ex-wife or at least, he still misses her.

If I’m right in my interpretation, if not, forget about my following comments, if I’m right, he’s anything but considerate. He has multiple options to talk about this topic with someone else but not his date.
Even if he were the same David Beckham himself, I wouldn’t give him a third choice to do this.

If you see he’s being bored again about the same topic, as soon as he begins to talk in the same terms about the topic of his wife, I would bring out all the stories about my past exes (even invented) and I would left as soon as I could.
But, this is what I would personally do.

Anyway, I don’t want to be negative. I’m talking from what I have interpreted. I don’t know this guy or everything you guys talked about.
I wish you enjoy!

I see what you are saying! Yes! I think this time he won't talk about it hopefully. I will change the subject if he does. Thank you for your insight, Azul!

We met again and we ate dinner. He did not talk about his family this time. He seemed tired from work and was rather quiet. He was happy to see me. We are talking more on social media than before. I usually wait for him to message me. We are doing fine. He said we would meet again when we both have time. I think after the other man who made me tired or I was tired while meeting him, I realize that I like dominant men who have nice bodies. This is my preference. So, I believe the soccer player- the man I'm meeting now- will satisfy me and does so far. He is tall and has a nice body. He is also polite and nice to me. I like him a lot. Also, I don't think we will be anything serious at this stage. We are just seeing each other for companionship. He makes me happy for now. And, this is all that matters to me. I don't want to be in a serious relationship right now since I need to focus on myself and my health. I think the last man was overwhelming since we met once or twice a week for meals and companionship. I was becoming tired. Now, I changed my diet and cut out junk food. I feel a whole lot better but don't want to repeat the same situation with this current man. So, I'm glad he is busy with his business and sees me only when he has time. I believe it will work out between us. We are not meeting that often and keep our lives separate. I need my space and he needs his. So, this man is a better fit for me. He is attractive, sexy, polite, and nice!

I don't see why you don't spend some quality time alone without dating? It's been one man after another and each time it ends, you say you want to spend more time alone taking care of yourself and your own life. The last guy wore you out. Then you meet someone else and all that goes out the window. Why are you afraid to be alone? And sorry if I'm being too forward. I just wonder why it is you cannot be alone, when you say you want to be and to spend time working on your own life.

I like him a lot but don't know if I should accommodate his desire when I'm not really into it.

It might feel good if done right though so I don't know if I should take a chance.

So, I should tell him that I'm not too interested in doing it and have but he really wants to do it.

Well, I will let him go if he keeps insisting on doing it.

But, we should talk and see what he says.

Yes, I have been alone off and on. I am alone still although seeing this man. He is not my boyfriend but just a lover. I don't see any harm with being with a man for sex. We see each other for dinner and sex but that is about it. Is there something wrong with this?

I'm not in a relationship with him so he is not overwhelming. But, he is demanding that I have sex with him in ways I don't prefer. So, I will try to talk with him about it.

I prefer my interaction with him since we don't interfere with each other's lives. I just need to talk to him about his desires.

He is not too much trouble so far.

Also, I'm doing quite well. So, if I work on myself I will continue doing what I am doing whether or not I'm with someone.

I would just dump him if you've told him no a couple times and he keeps persisting about it - but maybe you haven't told him yet?

Yes, I'm entertaining the idea. I will try and if it feels awful, I will let him go. I am game for anything at this age. If it turns out well, then I will be happy! If not then too bad for us. I am not a prude and am very in-tuned with my desires. So, I will give it a go and see what happens.

Thank you though for your insight!

No, there is nothing wrong with just wanting sex with someone. I just was observing and perhaps I was off-based. It seemed as though you were going from man to man without any breaks or real time alone.

Why would you do something against your will for someone you barely know? If he cant accept you not wanting it, you should let him go because hes a very low quality man.

I agree with Big Bubba. You stated you're not into this idea and it does seem you are just accommodating HIS wishes. Why do something you're not into? BTW, it HURTS and is NOT comfortable - for me anyways.

Everybody always say the same thing

Um... youre looking for trouble back there!

There's nothing wrong with what two people do consensually.
Him pressuring you to do something you don't want to do is extremely disrespectful. He doesn't care about you, only about his own pleasure. What you want doesn't matter to him. Made even more egregious as it's your body.
If the pain is unbearable, is he going to stop?

I did not see him this past weekend. I am not really encouraging him to contact me again. But, if he does, I will see him. He tried last time to orally stimulate me down there but it is too small for him to put IT inside. He is well-endowed so I'm thinking we don't see each other that often so he may just get tired of this nonsense. I did not buy the plugs or anything to please him. I am just going about my business as usual. I do like him physically but know he may just move onto someone else if that is all he wants. So, I am laughing about it for now. But, do believe, he will get tired of trying and move on to someone else after realizing I have no interest in doing it. I do find him very attractive so telling me to dump him for who? Truthfully, all the men I met on dating apps want sex from me. PERIOD. Every man has asked me to have sex. So, I just say the heck with it and find someone I find attractive and have sex with whom I prefer and like, not someone unattractive and plain old disgusting.

bpforever1, You are right not to do what he wants for a number of reasons, including personal choice. It's the one thing I would never agree to.

It's good that you are now better informed on the subject. No amount of lube could take away the pain or prevent discomfort now or as you get older. Sorry, but trying to avoid being too clinical.

Whether he's good looking or not, if this guy has any respect for you, he will abide by your decision. If you don't see him again, then the answer is pretty clear.

I wonder what made you try it when you didn't want to? Because he's good looking? I bet there are hundreds of men who are better looking than him somewhere around you. It shouldn't be the case. I find it troubling.

He is very good-looking! I have not attracted a better-looking man yet. Yes, I probably can find someone even more attractive. But, I am tired of looking around for now. May be, I will later but for now, he will do.